Requirement at the wedding ( guest must wear white)

View Quoted Comment Completely agree! I find ideas like this fun, and if you have party poopers who don't wanna come and have fun, you won't miss them for one day.

View Quoted Comment I meant “even” not “evening” lol but you know what I meant .. they need a edit button really bad on here.. I hate when I can’t edit

View Quoted Comment Not at all ...

View Quoted Comment But yet you wouldn’t expect the bride to feel the same way if you didn’t comply in return ..... better yet if they decide to be upset over white and lose a friend bc they didnt participate I wouldn’t want to have a friend like that in my life anyway... i notice people are basing their opinion bc how they look in white is it about the bride or them..... everyone looks good in white I know white makes some people look big but regardless of how I feel about my look tht will be one day I will come through for my girlfriend but thts just me bc Im
loyal like that..

View Quoted Comment *claps* Again, here here.

Honestly for me I would do whatever the bride(s)/groom(s) requested! I guess thats why I'm a good bridesmaid but I don't understand the fuss either. Then don't attend if wearing all white is SOOO offensive? Idk, sorry to hear your stress!

I think the difference May be the color itself... I feel really uncomfortable in white anything, my own dress is champagne with ivory overlay. Some women don’t like white when on their periods, it gets dirty easily, and it can be hard to find something formal in white that is not a wedding dress. I see what you mean by saying people wear green on st Patrick’s day and pink for breast cancer awareness but I think there is a big difference between a green vest or pink t shirt and a white gown. Also if it’s fully white or are patterns allowed? I agree that guests should not be a part of decor. I can also see where you think it would look amazing, I agree with that, I just know that I personally would feel uncomfortable. Maybe if you do a choice between black or white or give another color option guests will feel better

View Quoted Comment My point is, it's not a request. I'm saying you should not word it something like 'we request everyone wears white'. Requests mean you'd prefer it which means people can wear white, but it's not necessary. You're saying you'd turn people away if they dont comply. What you're asking for is a demand. It should be worded as 'all guests must wear white' on the invites. This way everyone knows ahead of time that it's not a request. That's what I was trying to get at.

I have befriended many brides/grooms on WW but it is post like this make that me think I am going take a break from WW for a while. Because one poster said it the best we all come from different backgrounds on WW. And what is odd in some cultural backgrounds might be normal in others. I live in NYC and every spring/summer someone has an all white affair. My job is having an all white affair for employee recognition. (Non formal like the op stated jeans, shorts) And where some brides/grooms are big on tradition other brides/grooms are not. I am wearing a fuschia wedding dress. After some many response to the op she might be mindful of the wording of her invitations. And weather you agree /disagree it is her wedding day. There might be something in your wedding you feel strongly about "no kids at your wedding". Having pets at your wedding . No alcohol, Non religious ceremony at your wedding these are things that might not be important to others however they are very important to you on your wedding day. I have a wedding quote that I use on Wedding Wire "Don't let anyone steal your wedding joy ". Congrats !!! to all and live your best life on your wedding day🎉

Who has wedding caliber white outfits/dresses/suits in their closet. Just about everyone will have to go out and buy something. Also white is not flattering on every body type. Maybe the theme thing itself isn’t too bad but the chosen color may be the problem.

View Quoted Comment They don’t get it I guess

I personally do not see the problem. I wouldn't make a big fuss if I was told/asked to wear a specific color or theme clothing to an event or wedding. If I don't have it, I'll go buy it, attend the event, and have a great time.

It's too much to be upset about clothes. I know so many people who have done all white parties; this is nothing new.

I don’t think your wrong for requiring a dress code you want your day to be your day, and things to go the way you want it. You’re splurging out thousands of dollars so that people can celebrate your day with YOU. You are the main focus of your day, and if people don’t want to follow the dress code then that’s simply your issues. I know being a women when planning to go to events I always ask whoever’s coming with me what there wearing so I don’t stand out of place and specifically telling people what to wear cuts down on that stress to find something, yes you do have a color requirement but that narrows down your guest options ultimately making it easier. I had a dress code at my quincenera and most people had no issue following it and i didn’t put it on my invitations nor inforce it as much as a should have. Most of these people commenting probably aren’t as involved with every detail as you are so don’t let them put you down! Keep the dress code, anybody who comes without it can be asked to leave because they aren’t respecting your wishes, and don’t feel bad about it! This is YOUR day YOUR money going into it, don’t let anybody tell you what you can and can’t do.

View Quoted Comment You better tell them again ... almost everything you have said is exactly what I have been reading on here as well and although their opinion is valuable it still has no meaning to decision and that is I expect my guest to wear white ... thank you

If you have the budget just buy some of the white graduation robes and have them given to people as they come in if they are in black.... Not said meanly, and only a small part jokingly.

I can understand asking. Why not ask? It is a small request comparatively.

I have NO issue with the fact that she has asked. As the vast majority of people will either have some type of “dressy” appropriate white- or majority white- outfit in their closet. And those who can afford to purchase an outfit will- a lot of people purchase a new outfit for a wedding- even if they can’t really afford it, let’s call that a “Shoppurtunity”, and think that they then have something elegant to wear to any other, summery, event. And who says it has to cost a lot? Can we say “Helllllo thrift shop”??

We would dress up if it was a Halloween wedding or a Masquerade wedding. Or if it was a formal black tie. So what is the issue? Is it because “the bride is supposed to wear white & no one else”?? Or because she has asked for the guests to do something other than show up and party?

Anyway ya slice it: if you truly love and support the couple you will honor the request to the best of your ability.

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Maggie,

I didn't say they had to dress formal. They are allowed to wear what they want as long as it is white. If you've been to a white party you would see that all the fuss people are having you would change your mind. I am a loyal friend and I wouldn't miss my close friend's" wedding just bc I don't look right in something. I'm either going to wear something that I could hide my figure fairly by buying it in a bigger size, if money is not the issue or not show. Its just that simple. Last but not least, I will never tell someone how to run their wedding especially if I am not paying for it .

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Hahaha on the graduation robes I just hollered .... Oh my God lol ... I'm here for this comment because you speaking all factual statements...I think its a way to find something to complain about. so far the answers I am getting is how they look and what if they don't have the money... We all know you could buy a maxi dress better yet wear as you please there isn't a stipulation in the dress code just wear some white. At the end of the day that last sentence is all I was getting at .. thank you ma'am

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And let the church say Amen .....

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Girl white parties has been going on since I've been little so its been around for quite some time now.. You fussing over a "Color" not dress code but a "color" ..let me repeat it again not a dress code but a color lololol

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I don't even have white dress suits in my closet .. I didn't say come dressed like its Easter, in your Sunday's best lol I simply just said wear white..

************There is no dress code just a color*****

You could come in

white linen

white shorts

white jeans

white sneakers

You could pair it with any color shoe are accessory you want