Requirement at the wedding ( guest must wear white)

Personally, I would never have a dress code or color like this at my wedding. I don't care what my guests wear, I just want them to come celebrate with me. So I can't really relate to your white dream wedding. If I got an invitation like this, I probably wouldn't care and would wear white. However, it bothers me that you would actually turn away people who didn't comply with your request.

I wouldn't show up if it was required of me to wear white.. I'll save myself as being the odd ball or not being able to get in... It's rather rude for that person to show up....

Dude, whatever makes ya happy. But personally i would never request that on my wedding day. I want my guests to be comfortable, happy for me and just enjoy themselves... this makes things complicated and you are making yourself stress over people not arriving with the color you want.... but! Whatever you want honey, your day.

But come to terms with people you love not showing up in white... and having to turn them away... Hope your thing works out Mrs. B

I completely understand. That's why I'm inviting the people who wouldn't have a problem wearing it. White parties are common darn near every where. I don't have friends who think like (oh she isn't going to tell me what to wear) this strikes as being a negative. I can't tell a grown person what to do. The point I was making is a wedding is not mandatory a person is going to either rsvp or decline the request. I could understand their side and I would hope they understood mine...

Also, there is a big difference between "request" and "requirement". So you should let your guests know up front that they will be turned away if they don't wear white. To a guest, it may not seem like a big deal reading an invite that says to wear white. You will also have to make the distinction that it is ALL WHITE. So men can't wear khakis and a white shirt?

I'm letting my wedding planner come up with the verbiage,she is really good at that . She said she has done many and have never had a problem.. I'm still debating on the men. I think most people think you have to come dressed in suits and tht is not the case here. Someone even mentioned to not take a picture with the ones that don't wear white, but my heart is to genuine so I couldn't see myself doing that either. The photographer will go around every table taking pictures and I personally would feel like an odd ball in the picture while everyone else is in white people could be very mean on social media and I could see me posting it and folks going in on that person... I was going to send everyone a copy of their photo in a frame with the bride n groom.

I wouldn't considered that the same thing

Yeah, I just think its harder for men. I have 2 white dresses that would suffice for the wedding, but my FH doesn't own white pants and would never wear white pants so he wouldn't just go out and buy them for one wedding. That's the only issue I see arising.

Yeah you know some men are stuck in their ways so I'm thinking it would be exception for them if their date is wearing white...My FH friends are going to show up in white though. Where we from 'white parties are common" and it brings everyone out the house.. His friends want to see some single women anyway and what better way to see them at a wedding lol

Lol, where I'm from I've never heard of white parties. I'm sure it will be beautiful and fun!

Omg really .. Where are you from? When you get a chance go to eventbrite and put in where you are from in the search engine. There should be a spot you could type in white parties I'm just curious to see if it would come up unless you just live in some hidden small town ,,its been around for years ...

I'm from a small town in Mississippi haha so I'm not surprised we don't have them.

Hahaha then yeah you may be right.. then again I don't know because I went to Jackson State University and that is in Jackson, Ms that city was "live" as we would say back in our days...those were the days ... Tiger Pride over here

I get where you are coming from, maybe the not greatest example but I attended a Sweet 15 where the birthday girls ball gown was a navy blue, they asked for guests to refrain from wearing that color, so we did, but it was a request just as if she would've asked for a specific color to be worn by all. I've had family throw all-white parties, which hints the theme is that color and it's how you show up unless you're ok being the odd-ball out in like red or something. My nieces sweet 16 is coming up and she is wearing burgundy, they are asking guests to refrain from that color. So far not 1 single complaint. It's true at times for things like this you have to know your crowd for certain requests. But not everyone has the same standards of planning ethics to other readers here and it's one of the things bound to happen when you post something very "opposing" you'll get backlash and comments like "well you posted it for honest opinion not sympathy" so don't feel bad if you know the majority of your guests understand your request and don't have an issue with it. And if someone doesn't show up in the requested color, just party on! and enjoy your special day. At the end of it all, don't let someone opposing to your request ruin your day or damper it, it's something you may not even remember in the long run. And as adults talking, if a woman is on her cycle, it's heavy and overall uncomfortable, it may be a huge issue for them to wear white because accidents happen despite the amount of coverage/protection you use. So maybe a few things to consider there as well, just a broad thought.

This is a very great post, you hit all valid points, but you are so right and I will be considering some of the feedback I am getting right now before they go out ... Although I see bitter comments I will still be sort of considerate on how I would word it lol thank you for the post sweet cakes

Btw you are gorgeous Queen

You are most welcome!! So glad I can help! That's what we are here for, to pick a bride up not knock her down

Aww! Thank you so much!