Requirement at the wedding ( guest must wear white)

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Am I living under a rock or something? I've lived in New York, Chicago, and LA, attended 40+ weddings in my lifetime, and I've never heard of a "white party," "white wedding," or any wedding at all requiring guests to wear a certain color. Guess we run in different crowds! If requiring guests to wear white is a common practice where you're from, then I'd say go for it. But if you have a lot of out of town guests who aren't familiar with this custom, then I'd suggest that you consider rethinking your plan because it might turn a lot of people off. The only wedding I've ever been to with a strictly "enforced" dress code was an Orthodox Jewish wedding where female guests had to have their shoulders covered for religious reasons. There was one woman who showed up with bare shoulders but the bride made sure to supply her coordinator with a supply of sweaters, coverups, and shawls to loan out for this very reason. Maybe you could have some extra white clothing on hand during the wedding just in case so you don't feel the need to turn people away?

View Quoted Comment Just because you tell someone something that has always been considered rude , in advance on your invitations, does not make it any less rude. People are not props for your pictures. Being a bride does not overrule all standards of what is polite or impolite behavior. As host, yes you decide on formality ( which is what " black tie " is, a level of formality, not wearing black. Or white. Or any other color.). And you decide what food and drink to offer, decorations , flowers, music. But for guests, you only choose WHO to invite, and say formality of the occasion. Never color, style, accessories. People are not decorations. The idea that a bride would reject people who have been invited to celebrate the couple's marriage, because they did not follow petty dictates not polite to begin with, makes me wonder what kind of friend or family you are, that you would turn away people if they do not obey you. They are adults. And except in work, court, other regulated situations, hosts do not tell adults what to wear in a social situation of any kind. And for the record, not everyone has a dressy white outfit, or black outfit, or LBD. I have more than 20 formal gowns in my closet, not counting old bridesmaid dresses, and at least 20 cocktail or semi-formal. So no, I would not go out to buy a color that does not flatter me, white or black, which I would never wear again, to be a guest at a wedding.

View Quoted Comment It’s a good thing you’re not one of her invited guests. Just because in your culture it’s “rude” doesn’t mean it’s rude everywhere. Just like in some cultures it’s impolite and rude to slurp your soup or burb, yet in others it’s seen as a show of respect and satisfaction. I’ve been in cultures where it is expected that there is a dress code with specific colors requested at most leisure events. There are white parties, black parties, lingerie parties, etc.. I can only imagine what you people on here would have to say about a lingerie party. Yes, we are all adults and nobody can “dictate” what we do so if you don’t want to wear white, don’t attend. And everyone is happy.