Requirement at the wedding ( guest must wear white)

View Quoted Comment Oh yeah I understand your feedback is just as important I like to hear other sides.

View Quoted Comment Again, this is a know your crowd kind of thing. I have personally never gone to any of these types of them parties. I don't know anyone who has ever been to or attended a white party or anything like that. Therefore, it would be out of the ordinary to request such a thing for a wedding in my extended social circle. Also, to me, a charity event to raise money for cancer research or something is a very different type of event from a wedding. On top of that, it is suggested, not mandated, that you wear a certain color. When I worked for a social services agency, we would wear purple for our annual domestic violence awareness event. It was requested we wear purple. There was no consequence if we did not. Some employees didn't wear purple, and nothing happened. The responsibility/requirement was to show up at the event. The color was a suggestion. It seems like you will turn people away if they are not in the requested color. People wear green for St. Patrick's Day and ugly Christmas sweaters for parties, but the key difference is choice. It seems as though you are not giving guests the choice of participating, but mandating they do in order to attend your event. The distinction, I feel, is an important one.

You asked why people may feel offended if you provide a strict dress code. People gave you answers, yet you are arguing with every individual who does not share your view. You said that your guests don't seem to care. That's great and means your request is a non-issue. In other areas of the country or social circles, this type of request may get push back.

I went to a wedding recently where the bride requested everyone to wear black and white and it was beautiful, nobody had a problem with it. It went perfectly with how the venue looked.

If I got an invitation that told me I had to wear something specific to a wedding, I'd probably just throw the invitation directly into the trash. After I consider wearing a wedding dress to the wedding.
Harsh, but I'm not going shopping for an outfit I'm only going to be able to wear to one wedding.
An invite telling me to wear black? I might raise my eyebrow at because you're still being extra, but I own a whole lot of black and wouldn't have to go out of my way to find something to wear.
I don't think its being disrespectful to the bride. I think the bride is being too demanding of her guests.
While I'm a big proponent of the "it's OUR wedding, we'll do what WE want", guests are taking a day or weekend out of their life to celebrate you and your wedding. Requiring them to go out and buy a new outfit because you consider your friends and family to be decor is just rude.

View Quoted Comment Boom that’s all Im saying.. it’s not even a “big issue” I think it’s people immediately think it’s a negative( oh she trying to tell me what to do) get out of that mindset.. knowing darn well they will attend a event that they will pay for and attend.. I’m sorry I’m not bulging for nobody but elderly people.

View Quoted Comment As much Im trying to get this catering bill down I probably wouldn’t be mad for real and will also look at the person not willing to support me either so I would understand not trying to sound rude either.

View Quoted Comment What if they dont have the money to go buy a whole new outfit? Its your day you can do whatever you want and people should respect that but dont be upset if someone doesnt attend because they cant afford a white outfit if they dont already own one.

View Quoted Comment Then people have to go and buy a new nice dress. In a color they may not look good in so they will only wear once. I actually have never HAD to go to a event unless I was a bridesmaid that I HAD to wear the color. Buying a new nice dress is something not everyone can do easily.

View Quoted Comment You said white parties aren’t in anymore whew where you located there are white parties all the time and exactly it’s no different from theme parties as you mentioned it’s depends on the person/ people you invite.. I didn’t ask people to buy anything bc I know mostly the people I invite have something white or black in their closet bc guess what they have already went to events like this and it’s as simple not come if they didn’t have it .. I’m not making you attend anything, it was just an invite ...

View Quoted Comment I’m not making people buy new dresses..if they can’t come then I would understand .. btw a white dress could cost as little as $10 I’ve plenty that I paid $10-20 for ..

I feel like people get their feathers ruffled because they think their presence is all you deserve, they get you a gift and attend your wedding and that should be enough without you asking them to open up their wallets again to purchase something special for your wedding.

Personally if a bride asked me to wear a certain color I would just comply I love shopping so it's an excuse for me to buy something new.

Personally I think if you’re basing someone’s support of your relationship on what they do or don’t wear to your wedding, that’s a bit shallow. Someone’s clothes do not dictate their love or support of you.

View Quoted Comment Yes ma’am, I will not, I shouldn’t have to change my venue bc of them I will say it again it’s planned in a year advance, I’m not making you go out and buy anything my family or friends don’t have this problem they know me and would support me and those that don't it is not mandatory that come...

View Quoted Comment You are supposed to buy a new dress for every wedding you go to? Then do what with the dress? Spend 50 bucks and wear it once?

View Quoted Comment Yes indeed you have to know your crowd, ones that know me, and those who would support you .. thts all

View Quoted Comment Who says you have to spend $50 I have so many white dresses less than what you just quoted

View Quoted Comment Not a nice one that will look good on me. But it is your wedding. If a color dress is more important then someone coming it is your wedding. But yes if we are being truthful if I had a friend do that to me. I would feel like they are not a good friend.

If you aren’t getting pushback from your guests it’s sounds like it might work out the way you’re envisioning. I’m sure you’ll get some stunning pictures. My crowd would definitely call me a bridezilla and tell me I was being ridiculous telling them they had to wear a specific color. My cousin has aspirations of making everyone color coordinated and having them take dance lessons (not just the bridal party, every guest), and I’m sure she’ll deal with plenty of pushback from our family on it.

As people have said, it's know your crowd. Because of my health our wedding will be private and then we'll have a black tie wedding reception several months later. No one will be turned away. I'm sure many of our elderly relatives won't be in formal wear. Plus it's a destination reception for 99% of my guests. I think your wedding will be beautiful!! I hope you get exactly what you want.

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Then I see nothing wrong with it. I wouldn't be offended to be asked to wear a specific color, I think it would be a fun "challenge" to find a cute new outfit!

I could see how it may be more difficult for gentlemen unless they want to wear white pants but that's their problem lol