Requirement at the wedding ( guest must wear white)

View Quoted Comment Really? Unless your cousin is PAYING for the dance lessons, THAT is a bit much. Wow!!

If thats what you want its your day. People put on invitations Black tie affair so I dont see why you cant say wear white

View Quoted Comment She’s young and idealistic and wants the perfect magazine wedding, she’ll learn when she starts planning! She’s not even engaged yet so I just laugh when she talks about it.

View Quoted Comment Lol now really Jessica hahaha taking dance lessons now that is definitely over the top ... my request don’t have anything on that

I totally see what you are trying to do, I would have no problem buying a new dress if I needed. It's not rude and if some reason they can't afford a dress I guess they would just miss out. You have a vision of what your special day will look like, I say comply or decline....
IMO

View Quoted Comment My point exactly thank you

View Quoted Comment Thank you .. no one is making them buy anything if you can’t you just can’t I won’t be mad and will still send out a thank you card

View Quoted Comment Ha! Ha! No offence, but your cousin sounds like a riot. Unless she eventually marrys someone of means, or she is someone of means, she'll learn those " magazine weddings" cost more than she could ever imagine. She sounds like a young girl planning her very unrealistic dream wedding. Let her dream for now. 😉 ❤

View Quoted Comment Since people think I would be asking them to go out and buy I will be sure to state that bc thts not what I want them to do and that last sentence is me all day 🤣😂🤣😂

I'm having an all white wedding as well. We decided to make an exception for neutral colors like beige, or khaki and also guests can wear light gold or silver since those are also the wedding colors. A couple guest pushed back but most of the people on my side have been to All White parties, so it wasn't surprising or out of the way for them. I also plan to get a "Family Photo" of the entire guest population, so I'd like everyone to somewhat match.

If you say your guests have no issue with your dress code demand then what’s the purpose of this post? Just enjoy your wedding theme & your guests in all white & don’t worry about what other people who are not your guests think. You ask for opinion here, but sounds like you argue with anybody who disagrees.

I’ve personally been to several parties with a dress color code & I even hosted one! Usually everybody thinks it’s a fun idea & enjoys it. However, there is one big distinction here:
Suggested dress code, like a party I hosted where invite said: “white birthday party - we would be so happy if you showed up in white at the party” is different than demanding everybody to wear white top to bottom & actually bouncing friends/family out if they don’t. That’s just so over the top 😆 There are different ways to word something & less demanding wording will likely get you the same results, but without ruffling feathers or causing resistance. Party that I hosted had soft wording & still 90% of guests showed up in all white & nobody was offended or upset. And obviously, we wouldn’t ever think of kicking 10% of non-white wearing people out lol.

Also, I must say, you comparing your wedding to a national holiday like Christmas, or an important charity event where awareness for a deadly disease is being raised by people voluntarily participating by wearing a color, really makes me laugh 😂

View Quoted Comment I understand your feelings about it .. I’ll be sure to let them know they are not obligated to go out and buy white if they don’t have it but it is a requirement for the wedding.

I don’t think I would care either way if you were close to me. If I was a plus one it would be a little odd though. Are you really close to every single one of your guests? There are also certain colors that I look really awful and washed out in so most of my dresses are a dark blue, green or grey. I love to shop so I wouldn’t think much of an excuse to buy a new dress as long as it was a color that flavored my complexion. White/ivory is one color that washes me out so it’s a whole skin process to make sure I look good in my wedding dress. Lol. It’s requires lots of exfoliating and some sort of self tanner that my skin agrees with.

View Quoted Comment Did the word “must” make you type this, of course I wouldn’t say it that way it’s all about how you say it but it still won’t change the fact that it’s a requirement . I have not argued with anyone on here. Does my replies of me saying I’m still going to make it a requirement make you think that otherwise ... I have tried to reply to everyone’s comments and not one have I argued with anyone with their comments .. Did it offend you in any way? It wasn’t intentional. To answer your question you asked what was the purpose of the post if my guest will be willing I posted it bc I‘ve seen other topics pertaining a “bride” being rude so I wanted to get other opinions on why you think they are being rude. Just because we all feel a certain way about it doesn’t make your opinion valuable than the other.. I’m not comparing my wedding I was giving examples of when people would pay to go to an event and would go out and buy for it but won’t do it for a “ Friend” on their wedding day.. (Let me make it clear I don't expect anyone to go out and buy anything) it’s not mandatory that they come, and yes honey I am going to enjoy my day and the guest who did wear white and still send out thank you letters to those who did and couldn’t come. Dancing the night away 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽...I hope this reply didn’t make you feel a certain way .

I haven't been to many events where I need to wear in a certain color beyond putting on a t-shirt. I was never turned away if I showed up to those things not wearing the right color, and I those are events I chose to go to.

It's your wedding and you can do whatever you want. I think the backlash you're getting are from people who don't like the "rule" you're setting but still hoped to celebrate with you. Those guests maybe either don't own something nice in white or don't look good in white. People like to look their best at events.

Some more food for thought...a wedding is not a free event. Most guests spend a good money on bringing something to give you (gifts/card&cash), sometimes even for multiple events (shower, bach parties), nevermind give a whole day/weekend of their time to your celebration.

I say go for whatever you want to do, but keep your emotions out of it. Anyone asks about it, you say it is what it is, and if you can't attend I understand. Can't expect everyone to like it or to come when you're being strict, and it probably (like this forum) is only making you more frustrated complaining about it. Don't stress yourself out more than you need to. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Yeah I understand people feel this way and that they don’t look right in certain colors I get that. I guess I don’t feel I should have to change my request bc of that or whatever other reason it may be to them . I think people think I am asking them to go out and buy white and I never stated that in my post, but yes majority of the people I know closely have no problem with it bc they either already have it in their closet or attend white parties. It’s a small fry to them.

View Quoted Comment None offense taken here! I’m mostly entertained by the silliness of this banter 😆 I’m not really capable of taking anything too seriously, when it’s coming from people I don’t really know 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s just an exchange of opinions for me.
Enjoy your wedding theme, your guests & dancing all night & don’t get yourself stressed over what other people think!

View Quoted Comment Thank you honey .. I value everyone’s feedback but for them to say I’m being rude is a bit much but it’s their opinion that’s what we on here for .. I simply think what you stated is the reason they feel that way and like I said, I get it, but when the invites do go out the word “MUST” will not be used I promise 🤣 .. it’s how you say it and knowing your crowd .. I even have co workers attending and they even think it’s an awesome idea. Your feedback was much appreciated 😘

View Quoted Comment Now we are agreeing ... mutual over this way and thts my fav emoji 🤷🏽‍♀️💁🏽‍♀️

View Quoted Comment That was the reason for the request bc I was going to have the photographer group us all in a photo look at you we had the exact same idea .. I love it ❤️The pictures be so bomb