Requirement at the wedding ( guest must wear white)

The thing I look forward to most about my wedding is the opportunity to spend time with my friends and family. I cannot imagine being so concerned with someone’s attire that I would prefer they decline rather than come in what they are comfortable with. The way I see it, by saying the dress code is a requirement for attending your wedding, you are also saying that your aesthetic is more important to you than your relationships. I would decline the invitation and likely wouldn’t continue the friendship.

Because we're not doing a wedding party, we're doing the same thing. We requested our guests to wear navy blue, silver, or gray. No one had complained to me or the hubby...they shouldn't, it's not their wedding and they were invited...if they don't like it, then don't go. Don't feel bad, there's no reason anyone should complain...

View Quoted Comment Thank you and no I’m not turning away elderly people. I do have a kind heart for them or disabled people but the point of making them wear white was so I could take a big group picture with everyone .. that’s it

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View Quoted Comment It’s just that simple ... ooh your colors will be bomb 😍😍😍😍. I swear thts how I feel 🤣 and I thought I was being nice . I don’t why they going in on me like I said something wrong it’s my day...

It has always been considered extremely bad manners in any social occasion, including a wedding, for any host to tell any guest how to dress is any way, except for the formality of the occasion, and things required for health and safety. Queens do not do it, Presidents, popes, no heads of state, not the scions of high society. So when a bride does it, most people who know about manners, social etiquette and protocol, think she is being extremely arrogant. . . . Celebrities who revel in being outrageous in every aspect of their life , drugs, morals, conduct in public, and general lawlessness, who surround themselves with am entourage expected to kiss up to the celebrity, set an example of doing things like color dress codes. But most regular people still think it arrogant. Your guests are adults. Hosts do not tell adult guests what to wear, unless they are paying them all wages to be props in their movies or photos. Stick to choosing dresses or suits for the bridal party.

I think given a couple of choices, black or white, pastels, etc might be better. White while inconvenient for women is very difficult as men. What level of formality do you intend. Would a man need to get a white suit, tux, t shirt? Who could easily find white slacks?

View Quoted Comment As honest as I can get 🤷🏽‍♀️

I wanted to do this!! My dress will be red so I wanted everyone else to wear white, except for my MOH and best man... but my FH stated people would get upset and probably won’t wear white.. so I decided to not do it and save myself the headache.. I agree with you.. I don’t get what the big deal is.. they’re probably gonna go shopping for a new outfit so just make it the color the bride says...

View Quoted Comment I have be thinking strongly on the men but the white parties I have attended those men be looking sharp casket and no they don’t have to wear suits they could come in jeans, linen whatever they choose just wear white clothing.. My FH friends it’s right up their sleeves heck the waiting to see some single women anyway 😂🤣😂

View Quoted Comment You better make sure you post “red” is the epitome of sexy so I’m know you gone look gorgeous I think the color white may not look well on some people thts the only thing I could think of bc I never said go out and buy... and right they going to go out and buy anyway who they fooling 😆

View Quoted Comment Exactly lol.. now I will ask everyone not to wear red. And if people ask I’ll say is the bridal party color lol..

Wedding etiquette maven Miss Manners on the subject of brides telling guests what to wear, follows traditional manners:
https://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article324794/Do-not-tell-wedding-guests-what-colors-to-wear.html

https://www.uexpress.com/miss-manners/2007/7/12/bridezilla-attacks

View Quoted Comment I don’t know your body type may I ask what color dress you wearing for your wedding

View Quoted Comment Sorry I don’t follow traditional weddings nor articles thts someone opinion of how they look at things I have my own , it’s not that serious to me .. if they don’t like it just don’t come.. so simple ..

View Quoted Comment Btw I wasn’t arguing I was replying back like everyone else ..me standing on my requirements got people feeling like I am arguing with them.. I get it !!!!

View Quoted Comment Well I guess I never cared about what someone thought and I definitely no I’m far from arrogant very humble in every aspect of my life.. unfortunately it is what it is .. still will be my requirement ... it’s not
mandatory for anyone to attend or go out and buy .. ... your response was good to hear for when I do attend other events but I will say this, if it was asked of me from a bride I will have no problem honoring her day.. they allowed to wear what they want just white at this event

View Quoted Comment I hope everyone follows your request. I grew up in the New Orleans area. We are used to all types of dress codes for weddings, balls, parties...whatever!! We have so many people on here from different backgrounds and what is normal to some, aren't normal to others. I can't wait to see your BAM and I hope you get your white wedding!! ❤

It'll look cool if your crowd plays along, but it can be difficult. Unless I wore my wedding gown, I would have to go buy something. I don't wear white. That might be the biggest reason for pushback.

View Quoted Comment Trista me too and yeah you right . I will be careful how to word it but once they see why they will thank me later ... I plan to send them a copy of the photo in my thank you cards, there is reason behind everything we do 😉.