Requirement at the wedding ( guest must wear white)

Thank you, I totally would respect that .

View Quoted Comment She will not be allowing guests in to her wedding that do not have the required color on unless they r elderly or disabled. Im keeping my opinion to myself on this one.

View Quoted Comment Why I won’t get offended tell us how you feel I promise I won’t get mad bc it’s your opinion. That’s what we on here for

I know people have probably said it all, but if it was a requirement, not a suggestion, we wouldn't attend. Not because I can't find something to wear, but because FH has zero white, his clothes are expensive because he's a big guy, and he'd never wear it again so it would be a complete waste. I certainly wouldn't want to ruin your pictures so we'd skip it.

View Quoted Comment And thts honest but even after you got the invitation in advance notice you still wouldn’t go

I think it’s your day and if that is what you ask then either wear white or simply don’t come. I wouldn’t personally ask anyone to wear a certain color but also wouldn’t turn anyone away for not wearing the specific color but if they have this much of a problem then it is also their prerogative to choose not to attend. It’s your wedding, no one else’s love!

View Quoted Comment Thanks love I agree but why you sending beach vibes this way .. I’m loving that photo

It’s ur wedding and your decision.
I wouldn’t be offended, however we might not go, as it would depend on how much white you want your guests to wear.
If ladies could wear white dresses, and men could wear khaki pants & white button down shirts - then yes we would go. If men were required to wear white pants, then no we wouldn’t go (regardless of advance notice), simply because FH doesn’t own white pants & will never wear them again, buying them for 1x day is wasteful IMO.
If I got ur invite, I would assume that you & I are close & will simply ask what is the white requirement - based on ur answer I would either happily accept or respectively decline.

It's rude because you are telling people what they have to wear. Guests may have a ready bought an outfit for the wedding or wish to rewear something they already own and now they have to go out and get something new. Especially men...who has a white suit! And that's money down the drain for them as it is probably something they will never wear again. I am a person/guest not a prop at your wedding to fit into your theme

View Quoted Comment Oh I could careless if u would get mad at my opinion. Its just that I was taught if I don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all. Good Luck on your wedding.

View Quoted Comment I haven’t sent the invitations out yet, it’s too early but the men are allowed to wear white jeans, linen,
white shorts, etc .. I have never purchased anything that I’m only going to wear once bc I know white could be used for another event but I will respect your decision not to come. I’m very understanding

View Quoted Comment Well your comment sound intense so it’s probably best that you do keep your comment to yourself bc my reply probably wouldn't have been nice either. No luck needed they either come or don’t the wedding goes on. My mother also told me you can’t please everyone. Have a blessed week 😘

I personally wouldn’t attend a wedding where there was an all white dress code. I don’t like to wear white and have no white formal clothing. Having to buy my fiancé a white suit would be costly for something he’d likely never wear again, so we’d respectfully decline. But I think it’s like anything else we make decisions about for our day. We are having no kids and some don’t like that so they will likely decline the invitation. It’s fine as long as you’re okay with people declining due to the rule.

View Quoted Comment Hahaha! Thank you, it’s one of my faves of us! ♥️

I do not look good in white and my hubby does not have a white suit either. I also don’t like to be photographed so I would hide from your group photo. I can’t believe you would turn people away for this.

As I’ve said in other discussions... everything is a know your crowd type thing when planning a wedding. If you think that this is something your guests could get into & enjoy... go for it! I’ve been to all white wedding/events, all black, themed and didn’t feel offended in the least bit. I know someone who just had all of her guests be her “something blue” and wear shades of blue. It was so cute! Again.... know your crowd!! I can’t stress that enough. Sometimes etiquette is voided over knowing your crowd.

View Quoted Comment Omg tht sounds so nice and you are so right honey it’s abt your crowd and thank you .. I would love to see a pic of the shades blue tht sound so cuuute 😍😍😍😍😍

It’s all in the wording. “Required” isn’t the best term to use because in actuality it’s more of a suggested attire since it can’t be enforced (unless you’re turning people away... and then that would be weird and bridezilla-ish).


Instead your invitations and wedding website could say something like.

“ATTIRE: We would love for you to be a special part of the wedding by wearing white to join in on the celebration!”

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This topic is really interesting! Most of my guests have asked me what color they should wear to the wedding. One of them mentioned to me yesterday that he was surprised that I didn’t pick a color as that is what a lot of people do now. I have never been to a wedding where I had to wear a certain color. I have a hard time finding dresses I like (for a reasonable price) so I didn’t want my guests to be stressed over finding something to wear. Especially since we are having a destination wedding in Paris.

View Quoted Comment That’s a good way of putting it ... my planner doing
all the invitations so I’m certain that she would word it appropriately.