Returning a wedding gift - guilt?

I say go ahead and return it...especially if you aren't SUPER SUPER close to that person. People should know that when they take the chance of buying a gift off a registry then it may be returned.

Would these people possibly come to your home and miss seeing them?

Would he ever find out?

Chances are you would return them and the swarovski boutique would issue you a store credit, not a refund. stores don't typically issue a cash refund for items of a higher cost. so unless you want other items at that store, it may be a waste. call and find out.

If he wouldn't find out I would return them. That's not something I would keep in my house either. Plus that's a lot of money for something you'll just put in a box out of sight.

Andi said exactly what I was going to say. Most stores don't give cash refunds unless you have the original receipt. Even with a gift receipt, at best, you will get store credit. (unless your returning at Bed bath and beyond. They will give cash as a refund)

Is this someone who will be over often? Would they notice that you returned it?

Andix it came with a gift receipt that says we have X amount of days for a refund or exchange, so I am assuming they can be returned. We aren't super close - he and hubby are close, through work, but he has been to our house once and I had only met him a small handful of times before the wedding.

Ugh I don't know. Ill let hubby make the final call! It's his friend, he can decide what he feels comfortable doing.

I'd just go ahead and return it. it really is the idea in this case, but if it's something you won't truly enjoy, then it's a waste of the money he paid.

personally it makes me really mad when I find out that a gift was given and instead of returning it for something they actually wanted, it gets sent off to goodwill. if I wanted to make a donation to goodwill, I would have done so in the first place!

just curious, was this gift on the registry? if he went off the registry I assume he'd realize that it may not work for you. going off registry is fine, but if you want to be certain it's exactly what they want, then it's best to stay on the registry.

do you have pictures of the doves? they sound pretty to me

If he gave you a gift receipt, I see that as a green light to take it back.

At my shower there was one gift I opened and immediately knew I would return it. The idea of what it was - teacups - was perfect for me. just the style was not me at all. haha I do not feel guilty at all because it WAS NOT ON THE REGISTRY! hahaha

I agree with Crystal - gift receipt is a green light to return. Be sure to send a thank you note, though!

They were definitely not on the registry!

They are very pretty, if you like that sort of thing. It's really not our style at all, but I can appreciate the beauty in them! They'd look horribly out of place in our house though and reading the care instructions for them makes me shudder. Way too fancy for a house with toddlers and dogs abound!

I don't have a pic of ours but here's a link http://www.swarovski.com/Mob_US/en/product;sid=mJSleWgoh6GleTwKYXw8XwEi_7l6rOTDNOm-DdV8g-AYLQ==?SKU=1143415&SetIncludeCookies=true

What do you write in a thank you card if it's an item you intend to return (or have returned?) "Thank you for the gift, the $260 we got back will go a long way in buying something we'll actually use"? Haha (obviously I am joking, I know better!)

I think you are probably worrying over nothing. in truth, I saw the doves and I love crystal. I wouldn't keep them- I'm sure the giver had wonderful intentions, but they look like the kind of gift my groom would give as a joke, expecting someone to return them just take a picture of them for your scrapbook and send a thank you note telling them how you appreciate the gift.

I clicked that link you gave now I'm getting pop ups for swavoski crystal stuff including the doves! hope you're happy lady- now that is what you should feel guilty about! just kidding- I'll just run the spyware program

I found this on their website, "If you are not completely satisfied with a Swarovski purchase or gift for any reason, simply return it in its original packaging within 14 days of purchase." I would check with the store.

They gave you the receipt, take it back! Life's too short to hold on to stuff you don't want or need.

Just thank them for the gift; there is no need to disclose that you returned them. I just wouldn't put more on the thank-you regarding how you will think of them when you look at the gift, etc.

Sorry stitching! I'm mobile so I don't get any of that! Maybe something you like will pop up! Haha

I would totally return them!

We have the SAME exact situation! we received a Waterford crystal ICE BUCKET (not on our registry from a boutique shop). it's gorgeous, but seriously, who uses an ice bucket anymore?! i feel so guilty wanting to return it but FH thinks its the best thing to do.

The person who gave it to us will never be at our house and will have no idea. We are trying to return it for something similar that will remind us of him so I think I'm going to get crystal glasses instead... something we may actually use.