Hello all! So my fiancé and I got married December 13th, and the entire day was AMAZING!!! We had so much fun! Some flukes but nothing earth shattering! We’re both just kind of annoyed by one thing. I’m sure I’ll get some backlash for this, but it’s honestly messed up in our minds. Just our venue, with passed apps, 4 hour open bar, wine service throughout dinner, soup, salad, fish/chicken/beef/vegetarian option, cupcakes and fresh fruit, AND a Mac and cheese bar cost us just over $22k for 138 people. We had a photobooth, an awesome DJ. It was CLOSE to everyone after our original venue burned down. My two cousins+ their wives brought their 2 kids each. And neither of them gave us gifts. For my brothers wedding the one cousin+wife didn’t get them anything and then the other one+wife did give them money. My brothers wedding was 1.5 hours away, and neither cousin brought their kids. I got a $20 gift from one cousin for my bridal shower (the one that didn’t bring anything to my brothers wedding, but gave a $35 check for my SILs bridal shower), and a $40 gift from the other cousin (the one that brought a gift to my SILs bridal shower and wedding). The only reason I’m comparing is because it’s just messed up for both me and my brother. Only reason is because both cousins are RICH! Like RICH RICH! Big houses, great neighborhoods, expensive stuff and cars, great jobs. We always give their kids gifts for birthdays and Christmas.
And many of you will say it isn’t expected to give a gift at a wedding...that’s silly. One of my bridesmaids, where I know she and her boyfriend are not as well off, gave us $240. Many of his many members gave $200+ and their not well off. It just stings I guess because my family is small and this feels like such a slight. Can I say anything? Our card box was broken on top but nothing was stolen as it was in sight all night.