This is kind of a long story, so I apologize in advanced but I am really struggling with what to do with my engagement ring.
So FH proposed in June 2018 with an absolutely gorgeous ring, but it was about a size to small. I kept wearing it as we didn't have time to go get it sized (jeweler is about an hour away). We we're at his families Christmas that year, and apparently my finger had it and swelled up like a balloon. I finally got it off and we took it in to get sized (only about 20 minutes away from his parents house). After trying on the ring sizer I told the guy I wanted to size my ring to a 7. However he INSISTED that I needed a 7.5, keep in mind my finger was still swollen. So, going against my wishes he put in the order to have my engagement ring and matching wedding bands sized to a 7.5. They told us it should be done in a few days and my FMIL offered to pick it up. Well, she went and it wasn't ready. This happened not once, but twice. She finally got it picked up three weeks later and they came to visit for MLK day. I put the ring on and it fell right off. Not only was it too big, but apparently they had trouble with the gemstone when they we're resizing it, and had to replace a couple of the stones. Wouldn't have been a problem, except they didn't match as they we're much less quality and a completely different color. I still wore the ring to work the next day since I was so excited to have it back, and when I looked down at it I noticed that one of the other stones had fallen out. I called FH in hysterics, he called the jeweler and they said bring it in and we'll take a look. They ended up just doing a complete reorder of my engagement ring so that it was exactly what we wanted. Awesome. It would be in in about six weeks or so. The only problem with this is that the matching wedding bands we're still the wrong size, but the jeweler assured me it wouldn't be an issue and could be fixed later. So we take them in around the beginning of October to be resized. Normally, not an issue. But my engagement ring has an infinity type band and the wedding bands we're made to fit into the curves. It gets resized, but doesn't fit into my engagement ring. We're now at the end of October and I need my engagement ring for our engagement photos. So the lady agrees that I can bring them back at a later date to figure out how to further proceed. So we take them back in around Christmas time again while we're visiting my FILs. And the lady couldn't have been more rude saying they can't do anything since we are now outside the return/exchange window. However, after once again telling her it was her staff who have messed up, she agrees to continue helping us. We decided that having new custom bands made was the way to go. So I left my ring in hopes that I would have all three of them back in about 12 weeks. Well, not two weeks later she calls that my ring is ready to be picked up! So we go down to get it, and its exactly the same as when we had dropped it off. Apparently she tried to have to whole thing remade instead of having the custom bands made like we had agreed on. So, we decided AGAIN that we would have the custom bands made, however I had my boudoir shoot coming up I wanted my ring for. So I ended up taking it back down over Valentine's Day for the custom bands to be made, the 12 week process this time. Well, the carona hit and shut everything down. Finally, yesterday the lady calls to let us know that the model they made for my ring is ready to be approved, so she emails them to FH. Well, is not 100% what I wanted, but after a meltdown and talking to FH we decided that the issue was very minor and only I would be the one to see it, so we approved it. We also told her to just have all the rings sauntered together as she had previously told us this would be a two week process if we brought it in to do that separately.
So, my question(s) after this long post is 1. Should I let FH have his way and just buy me a whole new set from a different jeweler? He is so broken up about everything that he would rather just buy me a new ring, but I love the one he had made for me. 2. Is it weird to wear all of the rings for approximately four months before we're married? After being without my ring for so long, I can't bear to part with it any longer, but I don't know how I feel about wearing my wedding rings before the wedding.
