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Just Said Yes October 2020

Ring Judgement

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Gabrielle, on July 26, 2018 at 8:22 PM

My fiance and I recently got engaged and I've been getting some pretty opinionated feedback about my ring. We are not a super traditional couple and he ended up not going with a traditional diamond ring, and instead the main stone is an opal. I am absolutely in love with the ring, but many of my friends and family members are giving pretty negative feedback about it. For example, "that's not a real engagement ring" or "oh so he couldn't afford a diamond, huh?".
I honestly don't really care if they like it or not, but it does tend to be a little offputting when they are being blatantly rude about it. How would you suggest dealing with a situation like this without coming across as a serious jerk?
I've attached a photo of the ring for reference.

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Dedicated November 2018
Jennifer · on August 16, 2018 at 8:51 PM
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Love your ring by the way!
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Kayla · on August 16, 2018 at 8:52 PM
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When my fiance and i got engaged i heard alot of crap because the ring he got me wasnt real sapphires infact he got the ring at Wal-Mart i litterally gave zero craps how much the ring was or if it was real they werent wearing so their opinion ment nothing. I loved that ring but we decided to get me a new one when that one started to tarnish. Any way in off topic who.gives a rip what they think if u love it.
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Dakota · on August 16, 2018 at 9:13 PM
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For one, beautiful ring! I love it!

Also, if they don't like it, they don't like it. You unfortunately can't change people's minds on things like this. Tell them you're in love with it and it's exactly what you wanted, and if they don't like it, they can't shove it.
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Elizabeth · on August 21, 2018 at 8:20 AM
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Tell them to watch the movie blood diamond and see how they feel about the ethics of diamonds. Partner that with the fact that diamonds are only considered a 'real' engagement ring because of an outdated marketing campaign by Debeers when no one was buying diamonds, that should shut them up lol. I have a morganite ring. I was super adamant that I didnt want a diamond for the main stone.
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Heather · on August 21, 2018 at 8:26 AM
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First off, your ring is beautiful!
Secondly, don't let what other say or think bother you. They are in titled to their own opinions, but if it's going to negative..tell them to keep it to themselves!

Not everyone wants a big fancy diamond. Myself included. I've been married before and had the big diamond ring, and it was pretty but not what I wanted. This time around I got morganite and Sapphire's, and I absolutely love it. And it wasn't expensive.
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WAR's.WIFEY · on August 21, 2018 at 8:27 AM
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Ignore them! I love your ring! Its stunning! I hoped for a ring like yours, I love opal rings, but am happy with what my fh got me. As long as u love it forget the haters.
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Mimi · on August 21, 2018 at 8:36 AM
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This is my ring I'm not a diamond type of girl so he was looking for one that had both of our birth stones.
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Kristina · on August 21, 2018 at 8:47 AM
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My engagement ring is half carat.... I didn’t want something big and glamorous.... I get the same reaction, “it’s small” “you guys are young” and then I say, ITS WHAT I WANTED. I groom dogs all day and I kickbox.... I didn’t want something big and god forbid if it was to be lost, my FH doesn’t have to lose out on a lot of money.

BUT. Your ring is absolutely gorgeous!!!!!! People are ignorant!
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Jesalina · on August 21, 2018 at 8:55 AM
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If you love it, that is all that matters. And all you have to tell them Is that you love it and it's exactly what you wanted, you couldn't have imagined a more perfect ring for you! People will always have opinions. Just try to brush them off
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Mrs. J · on August 27, 2018 at 4:54 PM
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Love this lol!
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Laura · on August 28, 2018 at 12:01 PM
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Just respond: I love it!!!
who cares what they think!
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Courtney · on August 30, 2018 at 4:25 AM
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The ring is beautiful! I would say he truly knows you and went for something super unique!
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Kenisha · on September 1, 2018 at 9:50 PM
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You love your ring, right? That's all that matters. Eff whoever has anything negative to say about it. I'd honestly just ask them flat out "could you be any more rude?" No need to beat around the bush.
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Jo · on September 4, 2018 at 11:10 AM
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Honestly, to me the ring doesn’t matter. It’s just a visual token of wanting to spend the rest of your lives together. I’d just say blow those people off.
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IslandBride88 · on September 12, 2018 at 11:06 AM
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Um your ring is STUNNING I have a rose gold with a pink Sapphire, and also received some wonderful facial expressions when it wasn't a diamond. So far my favorite response came from Je

ssica with the "Lucky for you I love it and since I'm the one wearing, my opinion is the only one that matters 😀"
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MaryClare · on September 12, 2018 at 3:58 PM
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Oh my goodness. I have the same ring but with an ice blue sapphire.. I’m pretty sure I also just commented on one your post and we’re getting married a week apart... I feel like I’m in the twilight zone.
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MaryClare · on September 12, 2018 at 4:01 PM
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I just tell people I picked it out, which I did pick mine, it’s a sapphire in rose gold, but I think more and more people are steering away from over priced diamonds. Your ring is beautiful and just tell ppl it’s exactly what I wanted, he know’s me so well.
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Krystina · on September 18, 2018 at 1:23 PM
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I think your ring is beautiful. I understand where you are coming from though. I personally don't really like diamonds and knowing this he went with my birthstone. Ive been getting lots of questions about it.
I think what really matters is if the ring is right for you. Its the meaning that is the most important. It represents you as a couple and doesnt have to be stereotypical ring.
When someone got rude with me about mine I just told them that he knows me really well and knew what kind of ring I would love best. Although one person I just said I guess he knows me better than you then doesnt he. (That didn't go over well but it was fun )
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Kristin · on October 2, 2018 at 5:45 PM
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I know I'm a little late on this post, but I had to say something.
I also got an opal engagement ring. It's exactly what I wanted even if people don't think it's a "real" engagement ring. Last week we took it to the jewelry store to make sure the opal was still in place like it's supposed to be. The jeweler asked if it was my birthstone and I told her it's not. She said, Oh the ring was just a random gift or something?" I told her it was my engagement ring, and all she said was "oh," but the look on her face made me wanna slap her. I told her it was exactly what I wanted, I love it, and my fiance did great.
I'm like you. I don't wanna be a jerk about it even if other people don't mind being a jerk. I just tell them that I love opals and have never really cared for diamonds. My fiance knew that and wanted to give me exactly what I wanted. He even had to argue with jewelers at stores because they didn't want to give him an opal ring as an engagement ring.
If it's the ring he gave you when he proposed, it is a REAL engagement ring. All that matters is that you love it and that it symbolizes the love you have with your fiance.
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Kelcey · on October 2, 2018 at 6:07 PM
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I love your ring! I don’t want a diamond 🤷🏻‍♀️ I love opals,emeralds,pearls, etc. The fact that your FH got you something you love means he knows you, it’s a good sign. I know it has to be frustrating and annoying but I’d just shrug it off, eventually they will stop with the inappropriate remarks.
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