Ring Shaming because it costs alot? Opposite spectrum

Your ring is gorgeous! Don’t worry about what people say. It’s your ring, it’s on your finger, and if you like it, that’s all that matters. We all have our own taste in style, so to each their own regardless of how high or low in cost.

My mother is the WORST about this! She doesn't like diamonds and her ring is a gold band. When we first got engaged she said something to me about it every time we talked. Shes finally calmed down about the ring, but now its the venue! I don't let her bother me though because I know it's just how she is! You shouldn't let other peoples opinions bother you because they always have negative things to say no matter what you do!

Your ring is beautiful! Totally agree with the PPs, people making those comments are just jealous/salty. Try not to worry about them too much!

Maybe your coworker truly feels that way. Large expensive jewelry isn’t for everyone. I know several women who say it is “ridiculous” to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on a piece of jewelry that easily could have been put towards a car or a down payment to a house or something “practical”. Which is fine. Everybody is entitled to their own opinions. However, there is no need for her to share that opinion with you. I think it is OK to silently think/feel that way, but when people openly express those opinions, they are either jealous or just plain unaware of how rude they are. Shortly after getting engaged, my current boss introduced me to the girl that would be her replacement. This was the first time seeing my then current boss after getting engaged and she immediately screamed congratulations and gave me a big hug and grabbed my finger to look at the ring. She gushed on and on about how big and beautiful it was, and how my fiancé had “put a rock on it”. The new girl just looked at my ring with distain and said nothing to me. But, she made it a point during the next week she trained with us, to tell every other girl in my department how beautiful THEIR (much smaller) rings were. Some people are just petty I guess.
Your ring is BEAUTIFUL!! Wear it proudly!!!

I’ve never heard this. My ring is large but I don’t show it off unless specifically asked. If anyone brought up the cost I would blankly ask what they weigh. Rude question for a rude question, amirite???

I made the mistake of judging a ring one. Thankfully the girl didn't hear it. I was talking to a friend about a couple who had just gotten engaged. The couple hadn't been together long and the girl had recently broken up with someone. When my friend told me that the guy had gotten the ring at the Piercing Pagoda at the mall, I stupidly said, "well that's going to last," without even thinking. My friend then reminded me that it's the meaning behind it that counts and maybe he doesn't have the money for an extravagant ring. That shut me up real quick. I immediately realized how horrible my comment was. Of course, I agreed with my friend.

*Most of the people who are clients at the program I go to are low-income, including myself. I should not have said what I said.

Kind of a terrible picture, but mine is a custom designed ring. I helped design the setting and left the diamonds completely up to him. He made fabulous choices! While I haven’t had anyone outright say anything demeaning, I have gotten the look that clearly wants to know why he would spend so much on me. I think it’s because we’re older that people don’t say anything, but because he’s older than me I also get that look as well. You just can’t win with some people! A good friend of mine got engaged the same time I did, and fortunately she went with a completely different style so it’s made it harder for people to compare the two. I think all of it’s so petty. I’ve never seen a wrong engagement ring, because how could something be ugly or not the right size when it’s a symbol of love?

View Quoted Comment I definitely know I shouldn't care, but I suppose because she was my bridesmaid before she took herself out, and we were good co-worker freinds before I got engaged, it stings.

View Quoted Comment I love your ring!! Its beautiful!! And I agree it is a wonderful symbol of love

That ring is GORGEOUS! Ignore them cause they are most likely jealous of how stunning it is! I’ve had people say mine is too sparkly and big to wear around 🙄

I actually have and almost made a post about it myself because it really upset me and I was curious if anyone had a similar issue! Definitely don't let it bother you! I let what happened to me go but if I find the picture that goes along with the story I'll post it!

Your ring is beautiful. I agree that the cost and your comfort level with the cost it is between you and your partner, no one else. I’ve posted about this on another thread about ring size/cost. I have received negative comments about my ring, not because it is large (it’s not), but because my partner decided to go to an expensive name-brand retailer. I don’t tell people where it is from... His thought was quality over quantity and he wanted me to have the best. I don’t necessarily think most people are jealous, but I also don’t think it matters what others think. It’s about you and your love!!

Your ring is gorgeous! We all have rings that are special to us for our own reasons. I didn't want a diamond and picked a very inexpensive ring that I love, but it doesn't mean I don't appreciate super glittery rings on my friends and coworkers. Whatever her reason for making comments, that's on her. Enjoy your rings and all they mean to you.

I never got shamed for it but I had to deal with comments from people that were a little inappropriate. Specially family! I even had people ask how much my ring costs and somehow one family member found out and every time she talked about my ring she mentioned the price and I turn red! I had to tell her to please stop because it makes me uncomfortable. Overall the whole thing is uncomfortable but I honestly shut down in my mind what they think or say because I just don’t care. People would always talk and you can’t mind them. Your ring is beautiful so embrace it, enjoy it and let the haters talk!

View Quoted Comment Gorgeous ring! I originally thought I wanted one similar to this but I opted to get one without a halo instead. My fiancé agreed to a larger carat size then I originally thought I would get so I felt like I didn’t need the halo around it because the diamond is big and sparkles like no other on its own

I had a friend try to tell my husband to get me gold or silver instead of platinum and save a couple grand for a down payment for a house. I had to explain that in California 2 grand wouldn’t make a dent in a down payment haha.

Only my mom knows how much my engagement ring is worth and she couldn’t believe my fiancé spent that much considering I always told her that he had no savings or even credit cards. I was honest with her. I have expensive taste and she knows and so does my fiancé so I am very grateful I ended up with what I wanted 😇

Ignore those people! Your ring is beautiful! Don’t let anyone put down your ring. It fits you and your fiancé style. It might not be perfect for them and that’s okay.

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I think we have the same ring!! I LOVE it! ... but same, people make comments about it every so often. I think in my case it's because it's SO shiny so they assume it was really expensive.

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I've had like a select few people make comments about my ring. Asking how much it cost, asking if H had to take out a loan/go into debt. One specific co-worker asked me these questions no less than 10 times when we first got engaged. The people that asked me those questions didn’t surprise me, they’re known for their lack of filter and decorum. These comments were obviously really invasive and inappropriate, but I didn’t feel shamed because of them. I love my ring and I’m proud to wear it. I don’t even know how much my ring cost, but even if I did, I wouldn’t go around telling everyone. I always see people on WW ring threads saying that "they didn't want a bigger stone because they have small hands and anything bigger than *whatever size stone they have* looked SO gaudy and like they were a child playing dress up" and that is really annoying. I have a 4.25 size finger and my center stone (solitaire setting) is just under 2 cts. I look like an adult, not a child playing dress-up. I love my ring. It is simple, classic, and not gaudy at all.