Ring Shaming

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You are far, far more mature than any of these girls!

You are doing/saying the right/mature thing.

Kudos to you, and your ring is stunningly gorgeous.

I wouldnt want anything bigger than yours that looks like the perfect size to me.
It's the memories that come with the ring not the ring itself.
Just ignore them

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I would've LOVED an heirloom ring But my mother and grandmother both lost their husbands so they both have each of theirs and their husbands' rings together in sentimental boxes. Although I would love to pass mine on someday and make it a tradition for future generations! I feel that it symbolizes luck and good energy on the new marriage

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I agree completely. And it would be ridiculous to go into debt over something as little as a ring if they don't make the money to support the purchase, just because you want the most expensive ring or the biggest diamond. We're all from a little country area in TX, so even having a ring at all is a privilege, and it's way more impressive when you can brag about the man that gave it to you instead. I am the first one to tell you all about my husband because he is good to me whether he has money or not, but I'll be the last one to tell you about my ring regardless of the cost, because it's a symbol - not a prize in a game.

People have asked how much my ring is too and also have commented on the size. I guess it doesnt really bother me much though cause I love it so much. Also Your ring is gorgeous.

They are just immature and obviously want to get married for the wrong reasons!

This is why babies shouldn't get engaged. If they really think the price/size of the ring is important, good luck on their future marriage. Your ring is gorg and you should probably get new friends if they are going to be so competitive over something so trivial.

View Quoted Comment That's so interesting. My grandmothers lost their husbands so they said here take mine I'm not using it! 😆
Now that they're both passed it's nice to have theirs. It's not quite my style but my fiance is designing a custom ring for my band so it'll all be cool in the end.

Your ring is gorgeous! And the right size for your hands. I’m a size 4 too and I didn’t want anything huge because it looked weird on my hand.

Your ring is absolutely beautiful!

First off, your ring is sooo beautiful! 😍 second, people suck 🙄 to me, that just screams immaturity on their part (especially the girl who’s asking how much yours cost). They say you can’t put a price on love, and honestly, I think guys who buy their girl a big rock are just trying to compensate for something (wink wink lol). There’s so much pressure for things to be bigger and better and to show off an amazing ring (especially with social media), but what really matters is the love that you and your spouse/future spouse share.

View Quoted Comment What you wrote here shows that it's not about your ring at all, especially the one whose husband is cheating on her. They want what you have...a good, solid relationship with a fabulous guy who loves you. They don't have that yet so make themselves feel better by playing the "my ring is better than yours " game.

First of all, you're a woman who clearly knows what she wants. For crying out loud you were 18 when you got the man and ring of your dreams! Weddings, marriage and everything in between isn't about the ring. (It's a shame your friends didn't get the memo) Its the unconditional love and commitment between one another that is what it's all about. Your ring is BEAUTIFUL. Okay, but seriously your friends are just being immature and getting caught up in fantasy land. They'll come to reality sooner or later so just ignore the ridiculousness until that happens.

I think your ring is perfect! I also wear a tiny size as well and understand what you mean by larger diamonds looking gaudy..they totally do! Besides..only when your newly engaged do people really care or notice the ring..as long as you love it!

I have a ring that I think is perfect and have gotten judgement from both sides. You can’t win and I agree with PP’s that it is a maturity issue and valuing things over the quality of the relationship. For me, I think that a lot of the “it’s not big enough” comes from those who buy into the status quo and don’t question the consumerism that surrounds them (this is typically my east coast friends and family). I also get judgement from my Pacific Northwest friends who know that my partner bought an internally flawless stone from an expensive name brand (and think they are above consumer culture). It can feel really hurtful to you and your partner and is best not engaged with.

I think it's so important to match diamond size with hand size! I'm a size 5 and anything above a certain size just looked like costume jewelry!

I think your ring is beautiful!

I’m also engaged at a young age, and my ring is MUCH simpler than yours. (Yours is extremely beautiful!) mine actually came from Walmart, which I don’t mind at all. I love this ring so much and wouldn’t want it any other way! A ring should be based on the person and their own style, not which one would make their friends jealous. Your friends aren’t being fair or nice. Regardless, your ring is so beautiful and I’m sure that it fits your personality and that’s all that matters, girl!

Bigger isn’t necessarily better. Your ring is beautiful and unique and most importantly you love it. Anyone that has something negative to say about it is just plain rude and it’s completely unnecessary.

First off, your ring is absolutely STUNNING!! Love the way you have handled this very maturely and haven't given your two cents to your friends & their situations. Honestly I think it boils down to them being envious of you. Clearly you snagged yourself a great man and a gorgeous ring. At the end of the day the cost of the ring totally doesn't matter.

I'm the first of my friends to get engaged & they definitely started talking rings with their boyfriends and I don't think any of them have the smallest idea as to how much a diamond is lol. I was even mind blown!