Ring struggle

I regards to the yellow gold. You can have your ring rhodium plated, which will make it look like white gold... which will also make your diamonds standout and make them prettier.

Of course, I would talk to your FH about it.

Also, some jewelry stores let you trade in your diamond jewelry for upgrades that are at least twice the cost. So, that might be an option for a later date... maybe on an anniversary.

It appears the issue may go beyond the ring and whether you like it. I agree you should ask him why he chose that particular ring. If the reason doesn't honor you, consider whether he has demonstrated that he will spend his future doing his best to create the best life he can for the two of you. Look at your follow up post .... it appears that there may be more going on than just the choice of ring. I hope not. Wedding planning can really get emotional and you don't want to blow this out of proportion. How you should move forward will depend on how he explains his thought process in selecting this particular ring.

Good Luck!

PLEASE talk to him about it!!!!

I have some friends who have been married for 5 years, and for 5 years the woman has reminded her husband that she wanted princess cut and he got round. Like I have heard this conversation, as a friend who sees them maybe twice a month, so. many. times. It is beyond annoying.

You'll hate yourself, and him eventually, if you aren't just honest and let him know. His feelings may be a little hurt, but he will be happier if he sees you smiling at your ring all the time in the long run.

For this reason exactly I knew this kind of a decision could not be trusted in the hands of my FH. An engagement ring is supposed to be forever jewelry. You should have been more forward with him or gone with him ring shopping. FH & I visited 3 stores and I didn’t love anything and that’s when I knew it would have to be custom made how exactly I wanted it to be. I don’t know about your but I can’t pretend to like something for the long run and live a lie. Look into getting a new ring. Just realize you should probably put down some money towards it yourself if you really want it.

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I totally second this. Honesty is always the way to go. And I definitely think tactfully asking why he went with something so different than the reference pictures he requested is a completely fair question. I'm sorry you're struggling with this, and I don't think it's bratty at all to want a ring that you'll love and want to wear hopefully forever!

When a man is in love, his number one goal is to make his woman happy. It's often we women who stand in their way because we don't speak up. Just talk to him. Tell him you love his thoughtfulness in trying to find something different, but the ring isn't your style. If his feelings are hurt, tell him you love him and want a ring that you picked out together so you feel the love on your finger every day.

View Quoted Comment Omg I thought I was the only one going through this. My fiance did the exact same thing and I have been dealing with this since February. We're getting married next mo th so you know I'm freaking out because he wants to surprise me with the wedding ring.

Update ladies!! After visiting many jewelry stores to find a band that meshes well with my ring he finally saw my point. 🥴 it was a long process lol. Without sounding too much like a brat I was able to replace the original ring with one I'm in love with

It's still yellow gold but marriage is about compromise lol

View Quoted Comment Oh hun I feel you. Have you talked to him? My fiance was more understanding than I thought he would be

I HATE my ring. This Christmas I will have had it for 2 years and I have yet to even think "Well, it's not that bad". The plan had always been that we'd pick it out together but he went rogue and got...this 🙄 You should tell your FH how you feel about your ring. I let mine know a couple days after my proposal and he pretty much said he didn't care because he loves it. You may have better luck though. It's worth a shot.

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I think this is an awesome way to start the conversation.

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Gorgeous. And hopefully this experience will make you guys even stronger for difficult situations in the future.

This is a tough one... and one of the reason I tell people to try rings on before you buy one (or before he has a chance to buy one). They was you can look together and he can get an idea of what you like and what you might want. It also helps you see stuff on your hand so you know what looks good. Definitely be honest with him, but in a gentle considerate way. I'd recommend doing what other suggested, ask what made him pick that one. Express that you love him and you love the thought behind it but you really don't like the ring. Just tell him it's not your style and especially because you don't like yellow gold (that can be a very good and valid excuse to get a different ring). I'm sure he'll appreciate the honesty.

If you hate the ring, but love him. You need to tell him asap - but be gentle about it. If price is an issue, you can always see if you can exchange it and pick something more your style and upgrade the ring in a few years once you can afford it for an anniversary. Also, Mom & Pop Jewelry stores have way better warranties and prices. My Husband got my bridal set at a mom & pop jeweler and he got almost double the ring for the same price as the smaller ring at the big box jeweler. Plus the quality of the metal and gemstones are way better.