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Considering I don’t like his mother and she doesn’t like me, I would not accept the ring and I would make sure he knew I was expecting a store bought one

First I love vintage so I might really appreciate something older. I also love that something has sentimental value and love already imbued into it. I actually mentioned that I would not mind a second-hand ring as long as she felt it would suit me. In the end we ended up buying new matching engagement rings. When and if my son ever gets married he will have my engagement ring and wrap from my first marriage to do whatever we wants with.

I think it would have more meaning. Cause it was passed down though the family. A family that is welcoming you in.

It depends! If the ring fit my style, I would love it! H had this option but he passed on it because it felt more meaningful to pick out the ring/diamond himself.

I think that's really sweet. It means you are part of the family and believe his mom/grandma would be happy to have you two be together. I think it's very romantic.

I think I'd like the sentiment, but probably wouldn't like the ring. I know for a fact that the three rings I could have possibly gotten from my family aren't anything close to what I'd pick myself - I helped design my own ring and I love it. Honestly, if you're going to pass down jewelry, I think you should be willing to split it up into piece-parts. I have a friend who's family each got a diamond or stone of their choice from their grandparents jewelry once they passed that, and whenever he gets engaged he'll probably put his diamond in that ring. Having some meaning behind a ring while still retaining the wearers personal style seems best to me.

If it's a similar style to what she has in mind, then yes. She is wearing it for the rest of her life, so I think it is important for her to really love the way it looks and suits her personality/style!

I can't see myself liking an heirloom ring. I'm extremely picky about my jewelry and I feel an engagement ring should be more personal!

I would be honored. I think it would have MORE meaning.

It would mean even more. I don’t care about the financial investment that my FW made in my ring, I care about the thought behind it. Knowing that her mother or grandmother passed down something that meant so much to them would be extremely sentimental.

For me personally, I love the idea of a hand-me-down ring. My wedding band will be my grandmother's wedding band from 1958 and I can't picture myself wearing anything else. I don't wear a lot of jewelry so diamonds and whatnot aren't that important to me (although I do have one as my engagement ring), but I love my ring because he saw it and wanted me to have this particular one, not because it's a diamond!

My fiancée gave me his mothers ring that he'd gotten from her that morning. It does not mean any less or make it any less special.
I apparently need to wax/tweeze my nuckles

My engagement ring was actually his grandmother's, but she passed almost 2 years before - it definitely means more to me than a store bought ring ever could, because it was a sweet gesture from his family as well as a huge surprise. I was actually under the impression that it was lost, as we had been keeping an eye out for it while clearing out their estate; turns out, it popped up in the safety deposit box and everyone else kept quiet

Thanks Jessica,

My sentiments exactly; I feel it is a great sentiment and an awesome way to welcome someone into the family.

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Awww, that is so special and it one of the greatest forms of love.

My fiancée was given my great grandmother's ring and used the diamond to create a new one (we had permission to change it of course). He didn't feel like it was *his* purchase if he just regifted me the ring as is.. so that's why we decided to redesign it- mix of old and new. I love it.

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Kristin,

Great ending to a nice proposal; I do think that I am feeling better about the ring because his mom wanted to give him something of value to give me and she has really nice taste in jewelry so I know it will be nice.

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Aww, Sorry to hear that, I know it is really hard sometimes when you are coming into a new family but I am sending good vibes in hopes that this situation changes for you and your new husband's mother. I would truly prefer to have a good relationship with the in-laws to be and as of right now, that it is. I will try to keep it that way but I know family situations are hard. Hoping this situation changes for you.

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Great idea because while it still holds the sentimental value, the ring will have a little of him in it too. I can see from the comments that for the most part, many consider it a special gesture of love and it is really no wrong or right answer. We all know, anniversaries can mean an upgrade and the option to get another ring but I do think, the unselfish offering from his mother is priceless.

I would fee honored to be given a ring that has been passed down, that means his family really likes you