rsvp Deadline Soon

So far I only have 22 out of 115 RSVPs and my deadline is the 15th so I feel ya! I'm planning on giving them a few extra days before I start making calls. I'm just going to say something like, "Hey! I just wanted to check and make sure you got our invitation for the wedding. I'm giving final numbers to our caterer on Friday and wanted to see if you're going to be able to make it."

Yes! This is completely normal.
Our due date is tomorrow and we're currently waiting for 10 more guests to RSVP.
We had a lot more; but, we went against "etiquette" and sent reminders in mid June to those who we had not heard from.
In my opinion, it really helped because some guests lost their rsvp cards (smh), said the mailed it but we never received it, or just completely forgot that they had to RSVP and appreciated the reminder.


For those who haven't RSVPd yet, I would just shoot them a text, or call, saying the due date is approaching (or has passed) and you are following up to confirm if they can attend or not. You can even mention that you have to submit your final count for catering. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment That sounds good! We are going to text or message before calling thankfully.

View Quoted Comment Our RSVPs are online, so they definitely can’t use that excuse lol.
We DO have to have a final headcount to our venue by the 25 so I’ll message people Monday and tell them we need them to tell us by the 20. Hopefully that will give us most RSVPs.

Unfortunately, yes. We invited 225 people and by our RSVP date hadn't hurt back from 61 (so less than you but still a lot of people). Our guests got save the dates 10 months out, and invites 3 months out with stamped & addressed paper RSVP cards AND the option to do it online. So we made it literally as easy as possible. Our RSVP date came & went (June 10) and my fiance and me and my mother and his father spend the next week texting or facebook messaging or emailing all the people who hadn't responded (we contacted 1 person per household). By June 13, we had heard from 40 of those people. We reached out AGAIN the day before our final final date to confirm transportation for guests (June 19) and got responses from the rest. We still have one "no response" so obviously counting them as a no. We just said "Hey! We haven't received an RSVP back from you, and our date to return them was yesterday. Just wondering if you plan on attending or not so we can finalize our guest count? Thanks!"

You still have almost a full week, this is totally normal. Lots of people will put them in the mail Sunday since that's the deadline so you won't get them til Tuesday at the earliest. Give people the following week to respond before following up. Then send them a text or give them a call (however you typically communicate) and say "We haven't received your RSVP for our wedding on X date, will you and Mrs. X be able to make it?"

View Quoted Comment We have them all online, no mail in RSVPs

Ok - the timeline still applies. Give them til like next Friday, then follow up. You don't actually need them in til the 25th so you have plenty of time. I would definitely not start texting people before the deadline has passed.

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I would also let them know that if you don't hear from them by the 20th (personally, I would only give them 48 hours from the day you follow up), you will assume they are unable to make it and will miss them at the wedding. This will save you from having to follow up again.

I completely understand not wanting to feel or act like bridezilla!! I started contacting people who hadn’t responded right after the deadline.
Our wedding is 8/24/19 and we actually have heard from about 150 of 175! Not bad, but still making me crazy... lol
I just tried to be polite and said we needed a final count for food.

I totally understand how you feel! Our RSVP deadline is in 4 days for our 8/3 wedding and we still have 125 out of 350 that have not responded. I’ve seen other posts about reminding their guests of the deadline but I’m totally with you in that I don’t want to see annoying or like a bridezilla for asking people. I think there are a lot of good suggestions on this thread that I’m totally going to use! I’m planning on starting to ask people two days after the RSVP deadline bc we have both online and mail-in options but since yours is only online, I think you are totally justified in reaching out to people now or this weekend since it’s so close and it only takes a minute to RSVP online!

View Quoted Comment I will definitely reach out by Monday or Tuesday, especially since will be out of town the 18-22 and need our final head count to the venue and caterer by the 25!