rsvp deadline?

Typically invitations are sent out 6-8 weeks prior to your wedding day. It’s hard for people to commit to something in October for a wedding in February. Is there anyway you can talk to the venue about pushing the date out a bit later?

You don't really need a headcount for venue set up. They just want to know how you want chairs set up (linear, chevron pattern, etc. ) where you want gift table, sweetheart/bridal table, etc.

I'd ask the venue when they really need a full headcount - 60 days before the wedding doesn't seem reasonable for that. 2 weeks is more standard. If they do weddings all the time i'd be surprised they need it 60 days before. Oct invites is too early for a Feb wedding. I'd send them in early December (maybe a little earlier than normal to account for the holidays)

That is super early and no one needs a final headcount that early. The standard timeline for invites is to send out at 6-8 weeks before the wedding and it hasn’t steered anyone wrong yet because it works. Same for rsvp due date at 4 weeks before the wedding. No one can commit to anything before that time and employers don’t give final schedules before then either. That’s especially true with the pandemic ongoing. Then there’s the fact that if you send invites before 6-8 weeks with replies due at that time, guests will and do lose and forget the information. Most caterers and venues don’t require a final headcount until 2-3 weeks before the wedding. Push back with them to be able to use the standard timeline. Don’t add extra stress where it’s not necessary.

I agree with a previous poster that maybe they just want general “set up” plans like where to put cake table, gift table, etc? I would clarify with them first! Good luck

I think they're just talking general ideas, like sweetheart table or or configuration, where to put cake, band set up etc. They shouldn't need an exact head count that soon.

I would ask guests to RSVP 75 days before the wedding. If your wedding is in February, I think you'll want to send your invites out asap.

View Quoted Comment Everyone is saying the opposite but most of my family is from out of state so i don't think 6-8 wks is feasible. I'm definitely going to send them soon but I'll have to ask the venue when they need the head count. Then I'll decided on the rsvp date. I do still have a wedding website so i don't think they'll forget but if they do or lose the invite, they can still get the info. I also used the knot to text the save the dates so they should have access to that as well.