rsvp etiquette

Totally happened with me.
In my culture it's also not uncommon for guests to bring uninvited extra guests on the day of! It's annoying because it's so rude. Up to you on if you want to accommodate it. I had that happen to me but I allowed it since it balanced out with others who decided not to have a plus one even though we allotted it to them

This hasn't happened to me but I've seen/heard of this happening to others. It's totally up to you whether you accommodate this extra guest. If it's not within your budget or will, you could tell them that you're sorry but only those listed on the invitation are invited. The problem with giving them a reason is that they may try to solve your problem. You tell them it's due to budget, they say they'll pay for their guests plate. Tell them it's space, they will find someone not going and insist their guest can take that person's place. Good luck!

I avoided this issue by putting “we have reserved # seats in your honor.” No confusion and no unwanted plus 1s. I’ve heard of people absolutely inviting their own guests otherwise.

View Quoted Comment I worded my rsvp's the same way but I still had people scratch out the number and write over it to add extra guests. It is so rude. I reached out to those individuals and politely let them know that we are unable to accommodate any extra guest.

I dont know why but I have a huge fear about this happening. Plus ones and also a gaggle of children that people want to add.

It’s extremely rude. Call the guest and explain that the invitation is for them only (unless their “plus one” is their significant other, then they should have been invited)

Rsvp’s Have been the biggest and truly only source of stress in my wedding planning! Not just the adding extra people....but just getting them back! Some have just not sent them back....(guess they’re not coming?), some have not sent them back but sent a text saying “not sure who’s coming with me, but we’ll PROBABLY need 5 seats”, others have not sent them and when I call they say “oh of course we’re coming”, and my personal favorite, send back the rsvp saying “maybe, not quite sure yet”!!!
Thats not even an option....wth?!?!

Girl that happened to us at our wedding .one of my husbands groomsmen brought in his whole entire family and we didn’t realize it till seating time they were sitting in other peoples table .it was just so messy so I definitely understand.I was so mad but we fixed it and they were able to go ahead and stay my husband definitely pull him to the side to address that issue with him.

This happened with my brothers wedding... SO rude. They ended up accommodating the extra 2 people because they already had some "no" RSVPs - but I don't see any problem with call/text/email that person and tell them due to space, budget, whatever, you cannot accommodate more than the invitation indicated.

This just happened to us with someone on FH’s side. She was trying to bring her daughter. We kindly told her we are not having children (6PM Friday wedding). Then she said “she’ll find an adult then”. SO rude. I was floored. I want to uninvite her all together. FH told her that we don’t have room/budget for extras. She never responded, so I’m not sure what the outcome will be, but there have been people we were not able to invite, so it’s going to infuriate me if she shows us with someone.

RUDE. We had one person literally CROSS OUT my "__ of 1 attending" and put "2". He didn't put a name or anything, just that another person was coming. It was my fiance's stepmother's brother. So we aren't even super close, we were just being nice. She called & asked him for her name, and he gave her the name then said he wasn't sure if she would go. When she told him that's not how it works, he literally just decided to not come at all. It was like dealing with a child.