rsvp frustration

You are preaching to the choir. My deadline is also this Saturday and I'm missing about 32 so far. This has been the most frustrating part so far. You find which guests have common courtesy and which ones don't. You also find out which guests cannot fill out an RSVP card to save their lives. Thank goodness I numbered them in invisible ink on the backs. My mom and I have a bet on her 2 cousins to see if we actually get an RSVP in the mail or not.

I had several come in in the few days before the RSVP deadline. You may be premature in your frustration. I would try to wait until after your RSVP due date has passed and then quickly reach out to people (and not before). As of now, your guests haven't done a thing wrong as they aren't late yet. I totally get wanting to know who is and isn't coming as soon as possible but you selected the due date and that when they should get back to you by. Personally I'd wonder why someone is following up with me before then. There are legitimate reasons why people may have to wait until closer to the end of the RSVP window (work, family, child commitments). Hang in there! Once you're past this, it will feel so good!

OMG! I hear ya!!! Our deadline passed this past Monday and at that time we had 30/59 RSVP's still outstanding!! We touched base with everyone but the answers that we got that ranged from "Oh, since we aren't coming I didn't think we had to send it back." to "Yes, I am coming but I keep forgetting to send it back - can I bring a guest?" to "Can I let you know next week?". It was infuriating to say the least and I still don't fully understand what is so difficult about checking a box and mailing something that already has a stamp on it! Plus, we sent out STD's so when people got the invite it shouldn't have been a surprise! This is a second wedding for both of us so someone said maybe people thought it was less formal. Uh, if that was the case why would I go through the hassle of sending invitations with an RSVP card if we didn't need to know numbers - this isn't a backyard BBQ for crying out loud! LOL

Ok, vent over - thanks for listening and GOOD LUCK!!!

I am so worried about this happening! Our deadline is in two days and we're still missing SO MANY. We haven't even received half of them back. I have to blame my self as well because they were sent out later than I hoped but I still don't understand why people open them but don't reply or don't open them. I ran into a guest yesterday and they told me they got something from us in the mail but hadn't opened it yet. Fortunately he knew what it was and said they'll see us there. If I hadn't ran into him who knows when we would have heard from them!

I hope it all works out for you and doesn't cause you anymore stress!

This same exact thing happened to me I felt terrible! I resent them one right away with a note about how the other one got lost and of course they are invited I couldn't imagine them not being there. I still felt really bad though.

People just do not think when it is not their event.

I think a lot of people don't account for how long it takes to get to you when they mail their RSVP's. Someone in theory could mail an RSVP today and it could get to you by the deadline. Unfortunately too many people mail the RSVP out on the deadline. I would wait until next week to start contacting people. Also some mail may be disrupted this week too due to the hurricane.

Reading all of this gives me anxiety! lol. Our wedding is going to be at a private residence so I am only doing evites and a private facebook group and you will have to RSVP in order to get the address. We'll see who makes it! lol We are only inviting friends who know us really well and most are local so I don't anticipate the same issues.