RSVP postage? *rant*

I don't give a crap about etiquette when it comes to this. I am not sending out stamps with them. I know for a fact my family won't even care. I have a small budget and that would blow the stationary budget if I did something like that.

The last wedding we went to, my FH forgot to send it out & didnt do it till the week of, it was his step brother that he doesnt like so he wasnt to worried about it.

Im not doing stamps either, Ill have the wedding website for the rsvp & add the can call as well.

Ours are postcards, which is a little less on postage, but where the stamp goes it says "place stamp here or rsvp online" so we aren't adding a stamp to the RSVP card either, knowing that most of FH's family (who is spanish) will not send them back and most people will call / email / rsvp online. I know it's against etiquette but it just seems liek the smart decision for us.

I like that text in the stamp spot idea. I'm also very glad to see I'm not the only one thinking like this.

Etiquette doesn't require that you have RSVP cards, much less stamps on them. However, if you have RSVP cards but don't include stamps, even fewer people will send them back. If you want to save money, you could consider online RSVPs.

I am not even doing RSVP's. With my family, friends, and guests, we dont do those things. I have never received one, and have never send one. We just always add 50 more people to the list. LOL

I agree, it would have saved us $35 by not doing stamps on the RSVP cards, but someone told me I was being tacky if I didn't.....so whatever. I'm with you though KitCat

Sorry, this is not an option. You include the rsvp and the postage. Period. I can't believe this is even a conversation.

Ya but, for the folks that don't bother to RSVP....I can only think what else I could do with that moolah.

That being said, I had to go around to a few different post offices to pick up some wedding stamps as most PO's are sold out in my area. I guess one lady came in and just cleaned everyone out in my district. My advice to anyone, don't wait until the day you have to mail out the invites to get the wedding/love stamps. I have no idea why I just didn't get them online other than I didn't think it was going to be a big deal...lesson learned.

I can't believe we even have to have conversations on what to do in the event people don't respond despite being provided stamped rsvps. Seems That shouldn't even be an option.

Im not putting stamps on my rsvp envelopes either. I'm giving them the option to reply by mail or online via my wedding website. Im just going to put something in the invites saying something like "visit our website at www.weddingwire.dadadada.com to rsvp, get directions, and for registry information."

I am not putting stamps on my RSVP cards either. I am including the website and a custom email address that I made just to receive the RSVPs. I am really only including the RSVP card for those who don't wish to RSVP online....99% of my people will probably not even use them.

Eeek - did the dawg eat your homework also? :-) What happens if old aunt bessie is rumaging around the kitchen looking for a stamp to put on your RSVP trips over her cat - falls - her dentures going flying across the room the cat starts gnawing on them, she's broken a hip and can't get up and she doesn't have the Help I can't get up caller thing and is laying there for days... Pay the 44 cents and avoid this tradegy.

I support the alternative online RSVP and calls. I am one of the last in all my groups of friends to get married and every one of them fumed about the wasted postage of non-responsive invitees.

Additionally with the "email guest list" feature available here you can seamlessly send out reminders.

For certain guests, aka his very traditional and tech challenged grandparents, I'll probably send a custom RSVP.

I'm not even doing RSVP cards because of this very reason... well, except for a select few. There are still a few old fashioned relatives/family friends around... so I'll do some special RSVP thing for them. Everyone else... do it through our website or call or email. Pretty simple to me.

I think we're spending enough on postage as it is... why add the extra cost to something that most likely will not be used anyway?

Thanks ladies for the information this will help me when I get to this stage of planning. Much appreciated!

Thanks ladies for the information this will help me when I get to this stage of planning. Much appreciated!

Ladies, please budget for postage! Yes, folks will email you that they are coming, yes someone won't mail the card back, email, phone anything...they believe you have telepathic powers. But, great aunt susie will want to respond because it is what she was taught as a young woman...but she can't find a stamp in her top dresser drawer and she frets and wrings her hands together for hours on end...oh and she has no web access! Call me old fashioned, I think wedding invitations are a wonderful tradition - I also do not think facebook invitations are appropriate for a wedding!

Out of my entire guest list of just over 100, only four are not online - my grandmothers, and FH's grandmothers. Everyone else is online to some capacity and EVERYONE has a phone so they can easily call/ text me their RSVP. I don't see the point in providing RSVP cards. Everyone I have spoken to says everyone, regardless of providing RSVP cards, will call/text/email you. One girl even had everyone respond with their own RSVP cards so she made a beautiful scrapbook out of it.

After reading these it sounds like the only way to avoid RSVP postage is to forgo RSVP cards all together?

Is that acceptable?