rsvp Reminder Wording

Maybe something along the lines of, "Hello! We haven't received your RSVP for our wedding yet, and just wanted to send a reminder that the deadline is approaching! We need to send a final count to our caterer, so please RSVP by Friday. We hope you are able to attend!"

Since you'll have to contact any non-responders anyway after your due date, I would skip the reminder and just call/text/email (however you usually communicate with each guest) over the weekend to see if they are coming. If they don't respond to that message, mark them as a "no."

After the deadline passes, reach out and let them know that you haven’t heard from them and need to know so you can plan accordingly. I do not recommend a pre-deadline reminder, that can be off-putting to your guests.

You can say something like "Hello (state their name or names). Please let me know if you guys plan on attending the wedding on ____ by this Friday before 8pm as the venue is requesting a final count. If you do not respond by then I will assume that is an automatic no. Thank you!" By stating all of this you are giving them a time and date of when to respond to you by. And by pointing out that their no response is considered as a no.

You don’t say anything. You wait until the the evening of the due date when the replies in the mail have been tallied and then start in calling anyone who has not replied yet. “Hi, we were wondering if you still plan to attend our wedding on (date). If not, you will be missed”. If they do not respond after already having 2-4weeks to decide during that one call, they are counted as a no and you move down the list.

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I personally would give them the flexibility to respond to a voicemail or text, rather than counting a missed call as a "no." I'm horrible about being around to answer phone calls, and while I've never been late with an RSVP I would hate me missing a call to be the reason I don't attend a wedding.

OP, I think it kind of depends on the guest and how close you and FH are to them. If it's someone you talk to regularly, a quick text that says "hey, I haven't received your RSVP yet! Just a reminder that I need those in by this Friday" works, especially if it's someone you know is coming but they need to fill out a meal choice or something. Even if you don't talk to them regularly, a little text reminder a few days before is no big deal, at least not to me.

We individually called/texted those who we didn't get an RSVP from and let them know we didn't receive the RSVP and would like to know if they are attending. Some of them said they did RSVP and we just didn't receive it, our deadline was October 15th and we actually still got some probably 2 weeks after the due date because the mail is taking so long! So I would just call/text and let them know that you haven't received it and wanted to make sure you got their answer.

View Quoted Comment I didn’t necessarily mean like missing a call rather than them saying “we don’t know yet. Can we get back to you?” You can always text the same message as backup to be sure they get it if they don’t pick up the phone or check the voicemail. I personally am the type that unless the visual voicemail is set up, I’m not going to check it. Either way, don’t contact anyone until the due date has passed. Many couples say that they get a flood of responses in the mail on the due date so reminding beforehand defeats the purpose.