rsvp Stress- Why Can't People Just Respond with a simple yes or no? Accept or decline?

We had to follow up with about 20 people once the deadline hit. 8 of those never formally responded so we just counted them as nos.

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I'm super annoyed. It's not like these people are random coworkers or friends, they are family members. I will admit this situation has me looking at some of my relatives wondering if they really like me. lol....

We invited 119, and had to contact about half of those. My FHs great uncle just passed away, so that side of the family I completely understand not being able to reply. It’s pretty frustrating though!

No one from my husbands family sent theirs back even the out of town ones weren’t sure if they were coming. We had to reach out to all of them 😔

It’s pretty standard to follow up after the RSVP deadline. If you search “RSVP” here on the forums, you’ll find at least 939483 posts about the same thing. It’s annoying, but you also have to keep in mind that your wedding is the center of your world right now, not your guests. They may have misplaced it, not received the invite in the first place, thought their spouse sent it back, or simply forgot. You’re the only one who will be hurting if you decide not to follow up.

I completely understand your frustration this is why we did an online RSVP they go to our website (which is Mobil friendly) thinking it should be easier. we put the RSVP on the top of the page AND! At the bottom of the page we sent out about 50 invites a few weeks ago and people from the UK have received their invite so I know everyone else got theirs. our website also tells us how many people have visited it (doesn’t tell us who just how many) and we can see a bunch of people visiting the website but not RSVPing we have about 5 people who have RSVP in total and we are giving them a month to RSVP. I mentioned it to my bridesmaids and she was like I completely forgot about that I’m glad you reminded me. It really takes about 45 seconds to RSVP online.

Your fiancé is right - you’ll need to follow up with the non-responders. It’s seriously frustrating that people can’t tick a box and drop a card in th mailbox, but sadly it seems all too common. We split up the non-responders and got our mothers to call family members and we called our friends.

View Quoted Comment I understood you until your last sentence. You may have taken my title/topic to be a bigger deal. It's annoying yes but, at my age I try not to "hurt" because someone doesn't attend a party in paying for. That would be a little much or I may have misunderstood your comment.

View Quoted Comment There also could just be weird people like my dad who said "why do you need a decline option on there? If people arent coming, then they just wont send anything back."
Or i one person I followed up with totally forgot to get online and RSVP bc her mailbox got plowed over, and our invite was in there that day so the envelope for RSVPs sealed itself shut along with everything else being almost illegible.
Things happen. You wont know until you follow up.

I hear the struggle! RSVP date was this past Friday. Still have about 30 families to confirm or so. I've reached out to a few. Mainly its my side who live out of the country. I thought they'd have it concrete by now but I guess not.

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You did misunderstand. I'm not saying that you'll be hurt because people don't attend, I'm saying that if you don't follow up you'll have to deal with people who RSVP after you turn in your final headcount, people who show up without RSVPing at all, etc.

AMEN! I am with you. Like, we sent you an invitation with a response card and a stamped addressed envelope, how difficult it is to respond.

Yesterday was our rsvp cut off date. We have people that have not responded and I do plan on reaching out to them. In part because one of my rsvp's came back open, empty, and without a return address. So we have no idea who sent it or what their response is, so I plan on using that as a segway to all the slackers.