rsvp

It's appropriate to reach out, but not yet. Your wedding isn't until July so you have plenty of time. If tomorrow is your deadline, I would give the stragglers a few days and reach out on Thursday.

The reason I am doing things early is because basically everything expect the venue is DIY so I need time to know how many chairs I need to buy and centerpieces I need to make .

Reach out on Tuesday!

Give them until the deadline. That is an early rsvp date. It’s typically 4-6 weeks before the wedding. My date was yesterday and I still have about 25% outstanding, was online rsvp. I sent some reminders but ours is kind of a destination wedding and we have an EXTREMELY tight budget and need numbers for vendors and also buying more linens, chargers, buying our alcohol etc.
with so much time out I’d message a few days after your rsvp date. Give one last reminder and state if we don’t hear from you by xx then we will mark you as a no and hope to catch up another time.

You must reach out but only AFTER the deadline has passed. Many people reply *on* the deadline date, so if you’re doing mailed in RSVPs, I’d suggest waiting a couple extra days to give that mail time to arrive.

View Quoted Comment Yes I understand the date is early , but I’m stuck because a lot of my things are diy and I don’t want to wait a month before the wedding to scramble around and make sure I have everything .

It's your party, reach out if you want to - and it seems like you want to. 😂

I would say it is! You need to know. I will be reaching out to those I haven't heard from.

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But understand that you're putting a burden on your guests - it's difficult for a lot of people to find out so far in advance whether or not they'll be able to attend for sure. You're also risking more people than usual RSVPing yes and cancel later on when they find out that they can't make it after all, or vice versa. There are very good reasons that RSVP dates are supposed to be no more than a month before the event.

I’d give it a week or so for stragglers to trickle in before contacting

Honestly I am dreading this situation so on the bottom of my RSVP I put that if they don't RSVP by the date given, then they need to bring a chair and a sandwich. I have no time for those who can't take two minutes to fill it out and send it back on time. This is your big day and you shouldn't have to feel stressed because people are being inconsiderate. I would reach out to those that you really care about coming and ask them to send them back asap.

I would say yes. Reach out. I mean you gave the deadline date for a reason.

I was in a similar boat so I just texted people saying that while RSVPs aren't due for a few more days, if they already knew whether or not they could come to just let me know. I was shocked how many people said they couldn't come but "didn't want to be rude" by RSVPing no. As long as you're nice and respectful (especially if someone says they need until X date for work or another reason), I don't see why it's a problem to start asking people if they can RSVP! People don't realize how important it is...

I'm sending out my invitations 3 months before and deadline one month before. I would wait 5 days post your deadline then start reaching out to people to get a final number. Simply and nicely say hey just wanted to make sure you got your wedding invite we look forward to seeing you. However if you cant make we understand. Please let us know either way so we can finalize the wedding numbers

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Same! We just sent out invitations today (12 weeks before wedding) with a deadline 4 weeks before wedding.

Hey Tamara! How are you finding the last few days before your wedding? Have you got everything organized?