Rsvps deadline

Most people usually give a week past the RSVP date before contacting no responses. Unfortunately many people tend to send their RSVP out on the day it’s due lol. I would give it a few more days and then reach out to those who you haven’t heard from. If you have a lot of guests, maybe split it up between your party and FS.

I would follow up with the people you have not heard from in the next couple of days. You may have a couple of people who mailed them on the 25th, and they are still in the mail. Others may have forgot since you mailed your invitations out a little early. I’d start calling/texting Monday or Tuesday. By Friday, I’d move on with your planning. Good luck 🙂

I would follow up throughout a week after the deadline. People are so bad at rsvp'ing. I've had people who never RSVPd but when we asked said they'd come and they did come -_- which begs me to question... Why couldn't you just rsvp then aha.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Heather. I think I will wait til Monday with Tuesday being the latest to see what comes in. My fiance has been in this mind set "we are only ordering 50 favors and if they don't get one oh well" and those who don't return the RSVP on time , they show up they better have a chair and sandwich" lol.

View Quoted Comment I think will give a few days. Friday is my last day of vacation. I would think those who tech savvy would, bam, already RSVP via the wedding site. I had some who reached out to me telling who they are bring and rsvp on the site as well.
Thank you again 😀

View Quoted Comment We are doing online RSVP’s also! I feel like that should help people be on time! It’s so simple! Enjoy your vacation. Try not to stress too much 🤣

View Quoted Comment There are some who I think only wanted an invite so that they can say they got invite but have no intention of even showing up. There was one who felt the need to ask if she was getting an invite cause she was being nosey on my Instagram. And I know she won't be coming at all.

I would have family members from both sides reach out to the people who haven't responded at all. Our venues coordinator recommended that approach..as it makes it less pushy than asking yourself. I know my mom and FMIL will be contacting anyone who doesn't respond for us. We have to give the venue a number and can't have people who didn't rsvp just show up. Plus, I'm not going to assume the people who didn't respond are showing up and still have to pay per person when/if they don't.

View Quoted Comment I agree with you. And there are people who I have a strong feeling will not come at all. Kills me my fiance's twin brother isn't even coming and the same for my own brother. Me and my fiance are planning this on our own... We didn't want to ask our folks to do anything as in financial help for this. There have been times, my own mother doesn't want to talk to about anything for this and to me doesn't seem like she is happy about us, well me... Wanting to have a celebration. In her opinion I shouldn't have made a big deal and just do the court thing like everyone else has. My fiance wants it to be nice and wants his kids there as to where my mother only wants immediate family. My fiance and I have decided we are doing it our way.. simple ceremony with a pot luck reception a big family cookout where our local guests and some members have made side dishes for us. We are paying for everything ourselves; the food and all. And I know some women on here will say it's tacky and only 'poor' people do that. Well you know what.. I don't give a damn.. it's our wedding and we do what we want and how we want to do it.

I waited a week, then aggressively followed up and told people they had one week to respond or they would be marked as no. So two weeks total. Like PP have said, a lot of people wait until the last minute to send their cards so waiting a few days to see if some more come in is wise! I sent my invites out a month early so I had time to have that cushion!

Soon after the deadline, I just texted or called people and said something along the lines of "hey, I hope you're doing well. I just wanted to check in on whether or not you'll be able to make it to the wedding." A few had actually mailed back the RSVP and it just got lost in the mail. You always have to account for that to. That's why checking in is recommended. That way you also limit the number of surprise guests the day of.

Following up with everyone can be stressful (but so can not knowing if they’ll show up or not). Ask your maid of honor/best man help to reach out to any friends who haven’t responded. As far as family goes, if you have anyone you’re close to (since it sounds like your mom won’t help) ask them for help.

Hi date twin!

Our RSVP date is August 1st, and we still have 80 outstanding (some of whom I *know* are coming, they just haven't clicked through, yet...)

I'll probably nudge my local friends/bp on the RSVP date, and then start contacting through text or phone over the few days after that.

Some of them are family who have threatened to say "no" over family drama. With them, I'll inclined to just ask them to make up their mind, I don't care either way. Dragging it out to the last minute is rude and self-centered.

View Quoted Comment Yeah. Maybe I shouldn't have placed on the RSVP card ' Please respond before or on July 25th' and just put ' Please respond before July 25th' 🤦. But I will give it till Tuesday or maybe even Friday to see what comes in. After that, it will be it.

Thank you all for your advice and suggestions. August 25th will be here before we know it.

I would suggest give it 5-7 days post deadline then reach out to the no responses via text or phone