Rsvps! The Good, the Bad, and the Unacceptable!

View Quoted Comment Oh no!!! I really hope she changes her mind! That’s borderline unacceptable!

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I get it, but our numbers are based on rsvp's just make it lite and exciting! "The Clock is Ticking XXX days before my big day! Your presence is requested have you RSVP'd"

View Quoted Comment Me too!!!! I put stamps and people are still not sending them back. They have them there but they get annoyed when I ask them if they can sent it back so that I can get a headcount. And if they don’t I’m just going to assume they’re not coming 🤷🏽‍♀️😂

I asked all my guest to RSVP via our wedding website on The Knot and I love it. We have have invited 149 guest and we are waiting for 80 more guest to respond. I thought this was going to be a headache but its not. I love when they RSVP bc they are leaving notes to us and it makes me tear up when we read them,

Our invites seem to have just been received by the majority of people after we mailed them out on Friday. I already had someone who asked if I "really" want her to send the RSVP back because I already know that they will be there. UM YES. There is literally already a stamp on it and its a postcard type RSVP - you don't even have to put it in an envelope! Just put it in the mailbox!

We literally just put ours in the mail this morning, so I am NOT excited about pushing people to RSVP. Our RSVP date is June 10 (July 20 wedding) so they do have 1.5 to RSVP. We also gave them the option to do it online OR the RSVP card we included (addressed & stamped). I'm really hoping the two options will make it easier!

We asked guests to RSVP two weeks before our final headcount was due. I figured this would help with the stragglers and snail-mail.

When the RSVPs due date had passed, we called/ emailed/ texted and said "Hi ____, we haven't received your RSVP. Can you let us know if you plan to make it or not? If we don't hear from you by (insert date) we will mark you down as a decline and be unable to accommodate you at the reception. Hope to see you but understand if you can't make it!"

This worked perfectly - if we didn't get an answer, you were a no.

I told people when they didnt get back to me when our RSVP deadline came and went that if they didnt respond by a week from then I was counting them as a No. Once that date Hit I messaged them all and told them hey you havent gotten back to me unfortunately I would have loved to see you at my wedding but you can no longer attend due to not giving me a response back in a reasonable time.

No one was upset with me because I gave them all fair notice on everything.

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Yes this!!! We saw some family for Easter (3 days past the RSVP date) who said "it should be assumed that we're coming!"...then why did I give you an invitation with a stamped RSVP postcard??

It's stressful and frustrating!

UUuuggghhhh. I hate waiting, or even worse... I keep having people randomly tell me oh yeah just mark me yes I will be there. I am like listen do you know how many people are saying that to me. If you don't want to mail your response card back that's fine, just bring it to an event and hand it to me. I cant keep track of who said what and do they have a plus one, is the plus one coming. Listen I am over this part seriously.. Lol !!!!

The RSVPs gave me anxiety lol. My deadline was 4/13. I still have people saying they are not sure. At this point I want to assume they aren't coming but when it is your own immediate family members it's hard. I have a family of 5 that lives out of state that never responded to my RSVP. I called them personally and I was told they really want to come so to count them in and they will try to make it. That's about $600 I'll lose if they decide not to show up. I think my family thinks this is a backyard bbq they can just blow off if they decide to.

I planned my older sister's wedding since she was stationed overseas at the time and dealing with RSVPs was a nightmare. My favorite was when I would get them back without a name on them. I mean... come on! I'm considering not doing formal invitations for our wedding since 95% of our guests are coming from out of state and will know details long before our wedding date. But if we do do them at least we won't have to deal with menu choices since we're not having doing plated service.

My Save the Dates aren't even half delivered, so I know I'm not ready for this RSVP stress. However, I will take this as a learning lesson for any other wedding I may be invited to.

View Quoted Comment That is beyond not ok! I would probably be the type to say something about the daughter not being invited.

View Quoted Comment Right! I have always been the person to RSVP as soon as I receive the invitation. Maybe when our guests get married, they will understand the struggle 😂

We are sending our invitations out at the end of May and are giving people until mid July to respond, which is about 1 month before the wedding. That gives us about 2 weeks to reach out to people who haven't responded yet before we need our final head count. I will not accept anyone pulling the "idk if we can make it" crap. If you can't tell me yes or no by the RSVP date, then you are a no. No time for that! We are paying for it all ourselves so any money we don't have to needlessly spend is a huge relief.

First of all, I don't understand why some people are incapable of checking a box and placing the envelope in the mail by a certain date. I feel like it's a gut feeling once you get a wedding invitation of yay or nay. There a relative in my family who is notorious for never sending an RSVP and I anticipate her adult children being the same way. I am not looking forward to the RSVP game come July/August.

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Nice! I'm going to do this!

Ugh the worst I got was someone wrote that they weren't coming because the invitation was "too confusing." My attitude? Fine! Don't want your negative personality there anyway! (FYI they were like all standard RSVP cards, nothing unusual or difficult).