Rsvps! The Good, the Bad, and the Unacceptable!

We had one RSVP card come back totally blank!! We numbered our RSVPs so we knew who it was from (and they used a personal return address label on the envelope), but they didn't say if they were coming or what their meal choice was!

My cousin who is super flaky is like "I keep forgetting to send it back." I already know she will not show up so I am very tempted to reply back and be like "well maybe I will forget to put you down for a chair and plate."

Ughh, my wedding is in 30 days!! My RSVP are due April 30th, we invited 150 people, and only have RSVP for 38 so far so annoyed

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That is a good trick to number each of the cards with the corresponding household. Smart! Lol will people ever learn?!?!

We just sent ours out about a week ago and have 5 back already! Makes me so excited to get them in the mail!! As for the "I'll try to make it" response, I need to figure out a nice way to tell them if they don't rsvp yes or no by June 7th (the deadline) we're going to mark them as not coming

Just got my invitations in the mail. Ready to put on my little numbers so I know who is who! Lol 💌1️⃣💌2️⃣ hahaha 😂

I have a spreadsheet that I check off. I numbered all the cards on the back for the corresponding couple. Our due date is 6/1, but I have had some issues with people not receiving our invites so we have had to reach out to this who we haven't heard from so far. I think we are waiting for about 29 response cards. We sent out 70.

Fortunately, most of our RSVPs were returned in a timely fashion but it did kind of irk me that those who declined didn't bother to even say congrats. A few never sent the RSVP cards back in the stamped envelope. That irked me too.

Ugh. I feel all your pain .... we are doing online rsvp. They are due in a less than a month... and we are missing about 90 peoples rsvp .....

I have only had 3 issues so far.

1. My own grandpa (the only grandparent healthy enough to go) RSVPed no because he has a show (probably an antique tractor show) he wants to go to. I can't stand him but I am hurt he is choosing this over my wedding. I think it hurts the most because if my grandma was still alive she would never let this happen and that breaks my heart because I wish she could be there so badly!

2. Because my grandpa isn't going my mom thinks she gets to invite her boss! I get that they are friends but I have never met him and I need every RSVP no I can get! She already has so many of her friends going but I compromised and said if I get 6 more no's then fine but if not no.

3. My cousin, whom I absolutely can not stand, was invite as just her and her infant son. she rsvp yes for her and a date instead. This girl is known to bring an ex of mine as a date. or a different guy to literally everything. There is no way in hell that is happening at my wedding! I sent her a message saying sorry no dates (in more words) her response was "okay lol" so I guarantee she will be starting drama at every family event for months. personally it felt so good to be the boss and tell her no. you really can't imagine how heart breaking it is to get dumped then see your ex show up at home coming (yeah I know it was years ago but it stuck) right after with your cousin....

We have a website - very user friendly - and have asked that people RSVP via the website. Some haven't even looked at the website (which is chock full of information about everything, including the dinner the night before and the brunch the following day). Some people have said, "Oh, I wasn't sure what to do since there was no return envelope" even though there was a special RSVP card with invitation asking people to go to the website (address was printed right there) and others have said, "Oh I plan to come to the wedding, I already told you, remember?" GRRRRR!!!! I'm trying to have patience, of course, but we need head counts for a couple of things, and I need to know who exactly is coming because of table assignments, place cards, etc. One person said, "Well, I won't eat anything, so I can just come at the last minute, right? I mean it won't throw your planning off." REALLY! Sheesh. But I know it will all work out in the end - we have another week for the RSVP deadline, and not matter WHO is there, I will still be marrying the love of my life, regardless!

I sent out the invitations and even before the rsvp date which was April 1st, I was sending text messages as reminders to rsvp. On the date my partial coordinator called all my guests to confirm attendance or not. I did not accept any pendings, unless it was an inmediate family member with work issues. If she gave me any pendings I would call them back and request and answer because of the deadline and explained they where given notice months prior of event by a Save the Date. I was a total bridezilla during rsvp's lol.

I was surprised how well our RSVPs went, actually. The worst I got was my sister. Didn't RSVP (no surprise) because she knew I knew they were coming since her and the kids are in the wedding party. But when it got brought up she says she never even opened the invite!! Says she didn't need to since she didn't have to RSVP and she saw Mom's so she already knew what it looked like.... Glad I spent the money to send her one

View Quoted Comment Brilliant idea! Am not doing printed invitations either, using technology and social media apps to leverage cost of prints.

I did rsvp cards. However, a lot of them will inbox me or tell my mom that they plan to attend. However, I told my husband we are going to get food prepared for 100 guest and that's the max. So, RSVP back or not I'm not ordering lets say an extra 50 plates for people that are not sure if they are coming or not. I just refuse. Weddings are expensive when people ask you to rsvp its actually courteous to respond. Also if they are not sure of the proper way to RSVP then they can always google how to RSVP for an upcoming wedding. I may sound like a bridezilla right now but, weddings are streesful and this is extra stress that can be avoided.

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Lol...I totally get that!

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Exactly! You marrying the love of your life! That's truly all that matter!

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Exactly! RSVP at the last minute its just aggravating because we are planning a wedding. Wedding cost money. I just think it is inconsiderate. No one wants to waste money on guest that are not planning on coming or that are so unsure. I mean just make an executive decision and go with it.

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Very. However, I've told my cater that I'm having food prepared for 100 guest and that's it. She is allowing me until June 17th to go up on my head count however, after June 1st I can't go down which is fair to the cater. So, I told hubby our safe number is 100. The cater will make a few extra so, if over 100 come then they should be covered. I'm honestly not expecting over 130 people to show up when 130 people did not rsvp.

Guests "negotiating" their RSVPs. These are the people who wait to RSVP until their negotiations are completed. They try to add on kids, other friends. etc. We didn't have a lot of it, but it really irritated me when it happened.