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Yes, you should give them until the deadline and then call them the day after. It's not begging but you can let them know you need to give your final numbers to the caterer by X date. Be firm: "If we don't hear from you by Monday, we will mark you down as not attending. You will be missed."

Yes, I would follow up. When we followed up, we found out two invites were never received which is why we didn't hear back.

Totally normal to follow up! Some invites get lost, the response doesn't make it back, or some people just forget to RSVP. If you still haven't heard back by the deadline, just reach out to anyone whose response is missing and say you need to know their response so you can give final headcounts to vendors.

Thanks everyone. That’s what we will do. I am for sure setting a deadline for that as well.

Hi Debbie! I had this same question - our wedding isn’t until July. But I also had the feeling of ‘begging’ people to attend and didn’t want to come off that way. However, these ladies have provided a good perspective as to why it’s good to follow up. Some prob never got them and others could have simply forgot. Thank you for asking this.

Always good to follow up! Once is enough though. If you don’t hear back after the follow up, that’s on them!

I would definitely follow up with them after the RSVP date. The mail is slower than normal, and there's a chance people mailed the response card back and it is in transit. Once the RSVP date passes would be when to start asking people.

I accidentally forgot to rsvp to a wedding last year. Our family was invited & I was trying to get an accurate count because with adult children, things can change.Then the rsvp date slipped by. (They only had online rsvp) We received a really sweet call from the groom & we then rsvp’d. The wedding was beautiful & we felt very welcomed!

You will get a number of replies in the mail on the due date. You tally those as they come in and then the evening of the due date you start calling down the list of anyone who has not yet replied. Don’t hang up the phone until they say yes or no. This should only take a few days at most to get through everyone.