Rude Future Sister in Law

Want to take part in anything. We offered to take her to food tastings, bridal shows etc... but she either declines or never responds. Her family tells us that she is just jealous, but her rudeness just gets to me. My fiance only has ONE sibling, and they can't even get a long on this special and important day.

Any advice you may have I would love to here! I feel terrible, because I like to keep my distance from her, but I want my fiance to have a better relationship with her. I just can't trust her, because she loves to talk about us behind our back or on FB or Twitter. I don't believe in "airing" personal business on social media, but hey that's just me...

It really isn't up to you, the relationship FH has with his sister. It seems he's already written her off and it is up to him to decide if he wants to continue trying to have a relationship with her. Just continue to kill her with kindness and perhaps accept that she isn't interested in being a part of your day. I'm sure you have plenty other friends and family who are interested in celebrating with you, so don't focus on the one who isn't or you will continue to be disappointed. Move on and don't let her keep you down.

Thanks Jesi great advice. I do try to be kind to her, I have never once said a rude thing to here, but I am such a sensitive person. The things that she has said do hurt, but what hurts me more is watching my fiance sit in tears, because of how she treats him. I will continue to pray, but sometimes I think she is better out of our lives. We live such a drama free life, and whenever she comes around she always ends up stressing someone out. I actually feel bad for her, because she is such an angry, hurt person. I have so much love in my heart that I can't help but to be happy, I wish she could understand that. I've been called stuck up ( she for some reason was angry because my parents fully support me; I am a full-time student) and other worse names, but I will hold my head up , and just thank God that I have an awesome brother lol. I will definitely continue to kill her with kindness!

Great idea! Just let her be and if she decides she wants to be in your lives she will find her way back. No use chasing after her if she doesn't want to be chased

FH's sister used to be exactly like that to me. Exactly. Nasty things on FB, sooo rude to me. Talked smack about me to other people. I would actually meet people out and about and they would be like "omg you as so not a b!tch. FH's sister told me all these horrible things about you!" You can imagine...

Anyway, FH & I just basically wrote her off and let her deal with her own life by herself. I found out that she was just really jealous of our relationship and what we had going for us and that she was taking it out on me. Plus, she told me "you are with MY little brother. he was always been MY little brother, and then you guys got together and he wasnt MY little brother anymore" so that could be part of it.

FH & his sis have never been close their whole lives, but she still felt resentment towards me for taking him "away".

I would say, just back off and give it time. It took over 3 years for things between her & I to work out. But now we are pretty good friends.

Are u sure thats not my FSIL. she was like that. but recently i just kinda didnt try to talk to her, avoided her with conversations but i would say hi and keep it short. i say it has to come with territory. mine and Fh dont really have a close bond either and she would do such things and pulled out as BM and wouldnt want to get involved in anything i did at all! I was stressed to the point where i began to just be an angry person around her. everytime she came around i would be in a bad mood.

but she is jelous, because she is older and her brother is happy with you. she wishes she could be you and be in the situation that you are in. dont let her get to u. i know exactly how you feel because thats where i was a couple of months ago. and when i told FH but i didnt say most things because i didnt want to sound like i was complaining the whole time.

After letting go and just being nice to her and keeping it short. she actually started to be interested and now we are improving. better

Wow, it is nice to see that I am not the only one. I don't understand the jealousy thing; if you are not happy with your life why not change it? Being hurtful to another won't make your life any better. Oh well, thanks for the wonderful advice ladies I just needed to vent a bit. Funny thing is I have been dating my FH for 4 years and never had a real conversation with her, the most we ever spoke was when she yelled at me for no apparent reason lol. I am not confrontational so I will just stay my distance.

I am glad that most of you worked things out with your FSILs.

Good luck,. FH and I have been together 7 years and she was nice until i moved in with the parents and FH. some people are not happy with their lives sometimes. so dont take it personal especially if she is like that with everyone. just be the nicest u can be to her. dont argue with her. keep it short and you will be okay

Shelley that girl is not your problem...her jealousy has nothing to do with you and trust me it is not worth it and you dont need to be stressed out in the planning of your blessed event and if you live a drama free life keep it that way it is no use in complicating things at least its not on your side of the family like it is on mine. If its meant to work out then it will, if it doesnt i wouldnt lose sleep over it

My soon to be sil has issues with being jealous of attention. My Gh'a Mom is so excited and sil is having major issues.

Thanks, I try not to let it stress me out, but I am soo uncomfortable around her. She just stares at me with these evil eyes lol. I will definitely use the advice that all of you have given me; I know the problem isn't me I just hope that she sees that soon. If she would open her eyes she would she that her actions are causing her to lose her only brother. She blames me for the fact that they were never close ( mind you they were NEVER close lol even before me). I guess it is easier to blame others than to look at the situation for what it is. The ball is in her court, I have no hatred towards her so whenever she is ready both the FH and I are here with open arms. All of you actually make me want to try harder to be nicer; we can never be too nice. I leave this in God's hands, and I will do my part and treat her better than I would like her to treat me.

What is up with girls lol, guys are usually so laid back but girls can be the mean ones!

I have 3 FSILs and they arent that bad, but they can come across as rude at times. The best advice I can give is to let it go and let FH deal with it...

My FH prefers to ignore, and act like she doesn't exist; maybe I should do the same. I am sure one day everything will be ok; just be thankful that your 3 FSILs aren't toobad

I think that you are being the best person in this situation! Kudos to you for extending the branch to include her into not only your wedding but into your lives.

It is up to her, unfortunately, to accept it or continue to act the way that she has.

I would take it that she doesnt want to be included and just ask her to be a guest.

That way you wont feel overwhelmed with her attitude and she can still be a part of the day.