Rude vendor

Fortunately, I've not had any rude vendors but if someone did that to me, I'd do the same thing.

As a vendor, I have met several rude vendors while working events. One vendor, for example, showed up late by 2 hours to the reception and caused the bride and groom to be stressed out because their food was not there.

Not every person you meet will be a great person, and the same thing goes for vendors. You will find someone that you gel with and enjoy their food soon surely.

Perhaps she meant it as a compliment -- that you look younger than your age?

I was on the phone with a DJ once. He asked me at one point, "What are you, 28? 29?" As soon as I told him I was 22, his pitch totally changed. It went from "We have the best equipment and best service and can provide you anything you need" to "You've never been married before. You don't know anything about weddings. That's why you need to hire an expert like me who can tell you what the best decision is." Yeah, he never got a call back from me.

Yes! I'm 23 as well. When we were looking at wedding bands I had one of the jewelers ask me if we could afford that given our age. It was 600 dollars. We quickly left.

Never outwardly rude, but I've experienced a lot of sexism.

Ask ME questions about all of the fine details about things, ask FH for the check and talk about deposits, anything money related.

I haven't come across any rude ones, but one incredibly narcissistic DJ. He actually used the word "awesome" to describe himself and when I asked him if he had any public events that we could attend he wouldn't tell me where they were, just that they were too far for us to go. Then, when he called to see if we had made a decision I told him "Yes, we picked XYZ after seeing them in person." He the got all uppity and told me I really should've seen HIM in person before making a decision. Yeah, ok.

A lot of vendors seem to be excellent at saying the wrong thing. We get more sexist comments about how involved my FH has been in the wedding planning. We are also younger (22) and are more financially stable than 30 year old's we know. I find it extremely offensive when people question us based on our age. We are getting a lot of problems with this while house searching as well. It's a huge turn off to the vendor and we haven't booked with anyone that has treated us poorly.

We had a venue refuse to change the hold our ceremony on their newly reinforced dance floor so that we could enter our ceremony the way we wanted. They raved and raved about how flexible they were until we asked to make small changes since there are two brides. We've have several venues suggest one of us get ready in the women's bathroom or even a hallway. I was by no means looking for two bridal suites but just a private space for myself and 5 bridesmaids to put our dresses on.

I really wish WW had some type of lgbt-friendly rating. Not to point out those who are not-lgbt friendly but to give those who are going above and beyond an extra thumbs up.

I would freak out! I am 22 and my FH is 24.. I do feel people view us as maybe unimportant compared to older brides? Yet we are as stable and set as a 30yr old couple! Just keep positive and pick the vendors who focus more on what they bring instead of what year you were born

Maybe I'm missing something- I doubt they said it to be mean. I'm 23 and wouldn't take offense to that. They probably meant it as a compliment.

@AlmostaMrs, there are websites that list LGBTQA friendly vendors, gay weddings is one and there are a few others that I cannot remember the names of.

@MrsCoakley - I would never take being called a "baby" as a compliment. "How established you are for your age!" Yes. But "baby bride" is condecending and demeaning.

@Almost, most of the vendors I know are welcoming, and we try to get that across on our websites. There are numerous 'gay' wedding sites, but most of them are terrible, tacky and none of my couples have come from them. Check out the blog, 'on a bicycle built for two"; we've had a couple of couples there, and I believe they have vendor listings.

Vendors.....yeah....it seems like some of them should never be let out in the wild, no matter how good they are at what they do. I interact with some of them at bridal shows, and I would never, ever recommend them, just based on personality.

The thing to remember is that once you pick one, you have to live with their creepy personalities until the day is over, and there's no reason for that.

Not crazy rude just little jabs here and there. I make sure to comment overly sweetly about it and they shut up.

I don't really think what they said was offensive but if your personalities don't go together then just cut them off like you said. You aren't obligated to continue contact with them if you aren't hiring them.

I talked to a photographer on the phone the other day who was super condescending. He told me he works with a lot of couples at our venue and because of that he already had a pretty good idea of our budget. He said something like "if you had 100,000 to spend on your wedding you typically wouldn't have it at that venue" and he wouldn't even set up a meeting with us.

Ugh this is exactly what I'm afraid of. I'm just about to turn 21 and I look a bit younger than that. I'd probably say "No.. not a baby bride. We HAVE a baby at home though)

That's rude, I wouldn't wanna hire a vendor like that.

We dealt with a very rude lady at Kays. We went in and told her the budget we had in mind and I told her I thought i liked princess cut more than round. I saw a ring that caught my eye and asked if i could see it and she refused to let me see it because 'it's round and not what you asked for'. Then she ran FHs info and saw he was approved for financing for 3 times the budget we told her. I told her I don't want a 10k ring but she became rude and basically said if he buys me a 3 to 4k ring instead of a 10k ring then he must not love me very much. I was fuming.