rvsp cards or not?

I am struggling with this too. So much cheaper to just put a note that says RSVP and the link on the invite maybe or in the wedding info. I dont think its a bad thing but maybe for those you know are not tech savvy just include the card?

So, I did RSVP cards. I did not have a wedding website though, just because I knew my guest's wouldn't ever look at it. So I did have the RSVP cards, and I added envelopes/stamps, and also said they could text us to make it easier, if they didn't want to mail them. Well out of my 75 guests, two people RSVP.. Literally no one texted, called, or mailed the card back. LOL. All of our guests showed up, so personally, if you have a website, just let them use it and save the money.

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Yes that is what I am thinking of doing that way I am saving some money. I have also seen those all in one invites that seem to be cheaper too which is another option.

We used online and it was super easy and convenient! People enjoyed our wedding website. No issues; I hear more issues with the mail service these days lol also we view it as gl cost efficient and eco-friendly 🌳

I would have pure anxiety with paper RSVP cards - but that's just me. I went to a wedding this summer that we RSVP'd for but the couple never got it in the mail. Luckily, we were in contact and they knew we were coming. I just wouldn't trust that those cards wouldn't get accidentally tossed out or lost in the postal service. The website to me is so much easier and convenient. Even if people wouldn't normally look at it, you could have it written on the back of your invitation that that's where you'' go to RSVP. It's kind of fool proof and immediate. I went ahead and RSVP'd for my fiancé and I just to test it out and I instantly got an email that we had RSVP'd. It just is way easier to keep up with and so nice on the wedding stress!

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Yes that was another worry I had is with the mail. We have maybe a handful of people who might not be super tech savvy but I could also put our number or give them a card

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I agree! thank you guys I am feeling better about just doing through a website

It’s a know your guests kind of thing. Most of mine are a but older and would think it was a casual party if it was an online rsvp. So we will fir sure have paper ones - it will be a postcard though, so not as much paper used.

We did electronic RSVP before our wedding was postponed. But we will do the same for our upcoming big wedding

I’m skipping the cards and just doing online. Most of our guest list is tech-savvy enough, and the handful of older folks that may not be are my parents’ friends, and he can hunt them down for me lol. As much as I like a pretty invitation suite, it seems like such a big waste of both money and paper.

I originally was doing cards but just switched to online via my website. I have also seen people make a new email address just for rsvp.


I live in NY and covid guidelines are changing constantly. I wanted to make sure people went to my website so they knew what the requirements and rules were before hand. By putting my rsvp there it forces them to at least glance (I hope).

Not everyone will reply online. Especially the older generations but some posts I've seen younger generations said it was easier/faster to check a box on card and mail it. Online rsvps are new enough that many people would not automatically assume to use that option only or at all because paper cards are so traditional. What I have seen on the boards here is the suggestion to allow guests to rsvp how they wish: paper card included, rsvpify.com, email or phone/text.

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I would agree with you. I had RSVP cards for our 20 guests. My mom's address was the return address so most of my guests (which was mainly family) just gave the cards to her when they saw her. Wasted paper, envelopes and stamps! LOL!

We created a wedding website that contains more details than the invitation. So, we’re doing online RSVPs there too. But our guest count is only 65 people (38 households) who we are close with and already communicate with on a regular basis. So in the event that someone doesn’t RSVP, they’re just a simple phone call away.

So, I was an upper-middle-aged MOB when daughter was planning her wedding. It was a fairly formal affair. Early on, daughter mentioned she wanted to do online RSVP's and, honestly, I had serious doubts. In my head I was thinking, "that's not good etiquette," "it's a formal wedding, that requires mail-in cards," "the older guests won't want to and/or know how to respond online." Although I had serious doubts, it was daughter and SIL's wedding, so not really my place to say anything. You know what? I was wrong! lol The online RSVPs worked GREAT! Daughter used The Knot for their website, and it allowed her to set up separate (but linked for the guests) RSVPs for both the wedding and the fairly large welcome/rehearsal dinner -- each even had separate menu selections. The wedding was in mid-January, and even "during the holidays," the process was seamless. The invitations went out the day after Thanksgiving and the RSVPs were due on Christmas Day (easy to remember, and about 10 days before her first guarantees were due). On the due date, she'd heard from all but 10 of the 127 guests invited, and those 10 represented just three households. She sent our quick email/text messages to each of the three, and had her 100% response within about 3 days. The only two invitees who did not use the online option were two of daughter's great aunts (both in their late 80's). One wrote her a lovely note explaining that she couldn't make the cross country trip. The other emailed me to let me know she'd done the online RSVP, but didn't think it had registered. I looked at it and I'm nearly sure she didn't realized she needed to click "submit" after entering her info. I updated it for her.... My niece had gotten married about a year before my daughter; she said she couldn't believe how much easier it would have been if she'd done online rather than mail-in responses. Good luck!

We did online RSVP's and it was great. 1- it is a lot less to have to keep up with! 2- you save money on stationary and postage. 3- Your website will send a reminder a couple of days before your deadline, to those who have no already RSVP'ed, so you don't have to worry about tracking people down for their responses. 4- You don't have to rely on the postal service.

If I had to do it all over again, I would do the exact same thing.

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Oh that is awesome! I did not know it sent reminders that I love.

View Quoted Comment We used The Knot for our wedding website, and they do send reminders. Not sure about WW or Zola. But it should tell you. The reminders were such a time saver!

As long as you're not having a black tie wedding, my opinion is that online RSVPs are the way to go. Most weddings with online RSVPs that I've attended have had RSVP insert cards included with the invitations with a link to the wedding website. This would be an example:

https://www.zazzle.com/wedding_rsvp_online_casual_handwriting_insert_card-240824782526837208

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That is amazing to hear! This making me feel so much better about it!