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I am not at this point yet (2022 wedding) but I would say wait until your RSVP deadline and see what you get back, they could be lost in the mail. After that point message/call again and be blunt and say "Let me know if you're coming. Otherwise there won't be food for you." That's basically my plan when the time comes.

It seems to be pretty common on here that people don't RSVP until the last second. I know I've been that person in the past where it's like two days after the deadline and I'm quickly RSVPing on the couple's website because the invite got thrown under some other paperwork. Reach out to them again and say "If I don't hear anything by X date we will have to assume you cannot make it and there will not be a seat reserved for you." If they get back to you a week later saying they actually want to come then repeat what you said and it is what it is.

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I agree with Jessi's wording for reaching back out.

Give them a final warning with a solid date and STICK to that date, no wiggle room. If they don't respond by then, then let them know they will not have a seat reserved, nor a plate of food. Simple as that. If you can't take 2min out of your day to RSVP, then don't come lol.

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I totally agree with your last line! Like I can definitely be scatterbrained and forget about stuff like that, not meaning to be a pain, but if someone had to reach out to me and I meant to RSVP I'd be mortified and feel terrible for making them say something. Especially after you say something to them if they can't respond and say yes or no then they don't need to come.

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Exactly! I've def. forgotten to RSVP before, but once the host reaches out to me, I give them a yes or no right then and there. Not replying is just so rude to me and I don't get it lol.

I reached out now because we are like 10 days away from our deadline and I just wanted to remind people because I get that everyone is busy or just lost the invitation which is all very understandable, but I just find it kinda rude to read the message then just don’t reply. I don’t want to be mean to anyone because we totally understand that everyone had life’s and things going on more important then our wedding but I wouldn’t ever just ignore someone. It’s happened more then I expected it to, which it weird. Also I feel like people read that message and was like okay we are going then didn’t say anything and I would feel awful for these people to show to no chair and no food. We are paying by the plate and I have said this to these people and nothing. Idk I feel like I just needed to rant! I’m so sorry

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I agree with this 100%

I would let it go now until after the RSVP date and then use Jessi’s wording to make sure they know that without an RSVP, they won’t have a seat. While it may be rude for them to not get back to you, it’s possible they still are waiting to figure out if they can go and “I don’t know yet” might not feel like an appropriate answer to them.

Yeah, seriously what is will people??

You don’t contact anyone before the reply due date. Many replies come in on the last day but you still have to contact some people. You start calling the evening of the due date, not before, anyone who has not yet replied. Split the list with fiancé. It should not take more 2 days max. If they can’t decide on the spot or they don’t pick up the phone they are marked as a no, if they show up on the wedding day, then there won’t be a place for them.