Sad Over a Friend's rsvp

It is sad, especially since you wanted her as a bridesmaid.

Could you call her and talk - just to tell her you're sad but understand? Maybe that would help you feel more at ease.

And while it's possible she was being thoughtless, could she have been feeling so conflicted and guilty she just did the short response because she feels so bad? Or maybe work is being awful about time off? I've worked at place that technically gave us PTO but the supervisors punished us for taking it so it was really stressful.

I am NOT diminishing your feelings - you wanted to celebrate with your friend and it's really disappointing. My heart goes out to you.

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I wanted to desperately but she is not responding to my attempts to contact her. I agree I would benefit from more information and would like to believe there are other factors and that's why I tried to contact her after receiving the message. Thank you for the message

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I'm so sorry :-(

I’m sorry, that sucks. She definitely should have communicated to you in a more personal way.

I'd give her some space for now. Chances are she's really disappointed and feeling guilty. Maybe she thinks that having a conversation with you right now will make her want to change her mind and she can't? It definitely sucks, and I'm so sorry that she's not able to make it.

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That's my plan. I don't want her to feel worse but I wanted to reach out to her and see if she wanted to talk it out. Space is the plan going forward.

Such a bummer - both in the way that you had to find out and that she's not going to be able to make it. ugh! Sorry you are going through this and I hope she comes around and has a conversation with you!

That sucks, and I completely understand your hurt feelings, they are absolutely justified. I’m in a similar (but less sucky) position with my bachelorette party I’ve had similar conversations with another friend who has lost half of her bridal party due to unavoidable conflicts/travel limitations. My advice is to take solace that you are not alone, it is another unfortunate complication of COVID, and assume she probably feels really badly and doesn’t know how to properly express it just yet.