Sad Today

You don't have to throw in the towel yet. Anger is a MAJOR factor and if he can't/doesn't find a way to control it now it will get worse. Have you tried going to couples counseling or therapy (for him)? Is he willing to make a change? Does he even acknowledge he has an anger problem? If he's not willing to try anything, I think you have a lot of thinking to do...

It honestly sounds like he needs some kind of anger management/counseling. I admire that you want to stand by him, but I just see so many red flags here I can't help but say something. This sounds so much like an old boyfriend of mine, and I used the same line, "he has never hit me, he never would" but he had the same attitude issues and anger problems around others.

Well - long story short, I finally dumped him. Found out later on down the road that he was arrested for laying his hands on his new girlfriend and her son. Not saying your man WOULD, but the justification of "he has never, will never" is just scary to me.

I honestly hope you find some way to get him help with his clear anger issues and I wish you well. I know this probably won't help in making you feel better, but I care more about your safety than simply & blindly lifting spirits. Sending love.

I agree....If you can get him to go to counseling it might help. If you are willing to support him you could go together so he doesn’t feel like he’s doing it alone. I would definitely want to address it before you get married. It won’t fix itself. Good luck!

Of course, we don't know the full story so we gave advice without the full picture - I know how much you love him! I hope everything turns out okay and stay strong

I think anger is always a tremendous red flag. If his anger is affecting him at work, then that is a big, big problem. It's also affecting your social life. This is something he needs to figure out on his own. If he ever escalates to physical violence, you will probably be his first target. Please don't stay with someone who is a ticking time bomb.