Save the dates?

I would send them via mail rather than email. Not everyone checks their email or Facebook regularly. Plus they might forget about a message you send whereas if you mail them something that's a physical item they could put on their fridge and won't misplace or forget about.

You can use postable to collect emails and addresses. If you don’t have everyone’s email I assume you don’t have all of their addresses either. You can text or email the postable link and it’s easy to collect info. I used it and it worked great.

We sent them via mail

I personality wouldn't do email save the date only because I know a lot of people who don't answer emails or look at them when them come in and the same goes for link text messages. I am sending ours out by mail and I'm still worried about that because we have save the date magnetics.

Avoid Facebook and email.


Your parents and grandparents sent save the dates by calling people several months before the invites were miles. That is the best way if you decide not to send a postcard or magnet to their home address.

We did physical save the dates and going to be doing physical invitations. We are however going to do electronic RSVPS! I’ve read stories with people having trouble with receiving emails with save the dates and didn’t want to deal with that. I figured save money on RSVPS since a lot of people say they either


A) know who’s going to attend alreadyB) Have to follow up for RSVPs anywaysC) Majority of people are tech savvy and if not we can assistD) we’ll save some money and won’t have to worry about info getting lost in email

I’d also recommend creating a document to store everyone’s address and who gets plus 1 to have true idea of how many people are invited.

I don’t have an issue with an email save the date, but if that’s how you’re doing it, collect everyone’s emails and email them to everyone. Don’t text or Fb a save the date (though you can text or FB message to ask for email addresses and physical addresses). Save the dates are optional anyway, so it’s not a huge deal if someone misses the email, and you can ask around to your most important guests to make sure that they got the email.


You’ll need physical addresses anyway for invites, so I’d start asking around for addresses, and include asking for emails as well. Also if you’ve just asked someone for their email address, they’re more likely to keep an eye out for the email. Even if you have an email for someone that you don’t correspond with often, it’s probably still helpful to check in with them to make sure that’s the best email address to reach them. Text, FB message, call, or email all work for that part.

Thank you all for your much needed advice! I'll go over all these point with the FH. Thanks again!

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Awesome, thanks I'll check it out!

We did our Save the Date as a graphic we created and sent it out however we could find people - FB messenger, text, printing it out for grandparents, etc. And it went really well and cost zero dollars! We really liked getting immediate responses from people and being able to see if they read it or responded to it. We figured they could add it to their calendar right then and there or screenshot it