Save the dates

No it would be very rude to do this. Everyone that receives a save the date should also receive an invitation. It sounds like you need to sit down with your fiance and go over the guest list and remove people since you have to many.

I agree that would be so rude to do. You really need to talk this through with your fiance.

No that is really rude and a terrible idea

I thought it was odd as well but just checking. Thank you!

When you ask people to save an advance date, you must extend an invitation to them. What if they turned down other events to come to yours? then you do not invite them? end of that friendship. Newly engaged always want to send as many STD as possible, and way before they should commit themselves for any but a few core people. This is why. Things change. Sometimes people end up moving to bigger venues with fewer goodies, in order not to be one of those awful people who does not honor all STD. if not an emergency, try to do it so you invite every one.

You only send save the dates to people you 100% plan to invite to your wedding. If there are people on your list you are on the fence about, you don't send them a save the date at all and wait until closer to the wedding to make a final decision about whether or not to invite them. When its time for the invites to go out, its okay to send an invite to someone who didn't receive a save the date, but its not okay to do it the other way around.

Yikes, don’t do this! Save the dates are essentially part 1 of the invitation, because you’re telling these people to hold the date for your wedding. Everyone who receives a save the date needs to receive an invitation

Echoing others: super rude.

The absolute ONLY exception I would ever see here is COVID making people cut their guest lists, but that is a special circumstance. It should never be that you intentionally send STDs to people you have no intention of inviting.

For context: sending an STD says "don't book any other event on our day." Oh, just kidding, you weren't invited anyway.

No, that's super rude. STD's are not required so maybe only send them to your VIPS or those you know with 100% certainty will be invited. Then if you decide to invite more people than that you can just send invites. But everyone who get a STD should get an invite, no question.