Scared of wedding dress shopping

My dear set a goal for yourself. Give yourself 6 months but dont wait longer than that to get a dress. Between choosing one and getting it altered you'll need 4 months. Feel free to follow me on Instagram for fitsperation lena24fitness

I work at a DB and if i have learned anything it is to find the right consultant for you!! They make all the difference! Before you go to any bridal store look at reviews on facebook or Google or wherever and see what names are mentioned. And even 6 months can be pushing it. 9 is usually better. Then you dont have the pressure of having to buy on day one. Take a couple appointments!

View Quoted Comment This isn’t always true. My dress is taking 7 months to come in and then alterations will take another month or two.

You can go shopping and then loose the weight and have alterations done for it. My wedding is April 27, 2019. I already gave my dress and my first alteration appt is dec 4th

I was sooo scared to go dress shopping. I started shopping a month after I had my son, but when I went I realized I felt so pretty in every dress. Just try it out and see! You’ll want to make sure you get your dress early so you have time for alterations and everything! Good luck.

I was terrified . I had put on weight and never liked shopping anyways. I went to a local bridal store and she helped me find something that I felt so great in. Trust the consultant and also trust your FH he picked you the way you are and obviously loves you no matter the weight. I am sure you will rock it !

My wedding is May 11, 2019 and I already bought my dress but it will take 6-9 months to come in and then another 3 months for alterations and I wanted to be prepared. Don’t worry about the weight. If you want to get healthy and feel better than set a goal and loose the weight before your first fitting. Mine won’t be for at least 6 months but it’s much more motivating to have a dress you love to want to fit in to. Don’t stress too much. Your FH will love you regardless. He asked you to marry him and loves you how you look now so don’t stress too much! It should be fun there’s too many other things to stress over. Find a dress that flatters yours curves and doesn’t restrict you too much! It’s best to be comfortable because you’ll look gorgeous no matter what according to your FH!

I'll tell ya this, I lost 70 lbs 2 years before I got engaged. I kept three weight off seemingly without even trying for a year. And I bought a dress I LOVE. Then I gained 20 lbs. I have slowly but surely gotten back to where I needto be but it's been a struggle. I've yoyoed back and forth past where I was arms will spend solidly the last 9 months before my wedding on a fairly strict diet. Don't getit twisted, I'm gonna look hot in that dress. But I often wish I'd just bought a dress a size or two up and just altered it downif I lost the weight

View Quoted Comment This. I agree. The salon in which I oredered my dress said that a “comfortable” ordering time frame is 7-11months..anything less than 6 months has the potential for rush fees. So aiming for exactly 6 is a little pushing it imo. As PP have suggested try securing a dress first and then worry about losing some weight. Also share these details with them when ordering.

I went shopping earlier this month and after correcting some very wrong info on my wedding (they had my wedding down for August 2018 instead of my actual date of November 1, 2019) they fitted me and despite the disapproval of some I picked my dress and it is supposed to be in on October 29th I then have several alterations to make it the dress I truly want. Then afterwards we have sizing alterations to do. We will he taking the dress from the first picture and turning it into the dress from the second picture. Because my seamstress is older and still quite busy I know it will take her a while to get the work done but I know she does good work and I trust her so it's worth the extra time the alterations will take.

Hello almost wedding date twin, I'm in the same boat I haven't even began to book appointments. I'm just scared also since I've been so sick the last few months from Crohn's Disease (I lost over 15 lbs from flare ups), i feel like nothing is going to look good or I'm going to balloon up from the medications.

I feel it's too early one hand but like most brides are saying it's best to get it the earlier the better, 6 months is pushing it because of alterations and such. I'm going to start looking probably next month. It's definitely a struggle trying to decide what to do.

I felt the exact same way, you’re not alone!!!

I am already a plus sized girl, and struggle to find normal clothes that fit me well. So, the idea of finding a dress that flattered my body type at all (and in my price range) was the scariest thing. Not to mention I was 5 weeks postpartum from having twin girls, so I was even heavier than I am now. But, I went to David’s bridal, and I told my consultant my concerns, and EVERY dress I tried on made me feel beautiful. It was a great experience and I’m so glad I didn’t let my fears stop me from enjoying the moment.

this is your wedding! You’re only going to buy a dress like this once in your life. Deep breaths, and bring a very supportive team with you that will boost your confidence when you feel down. I know you’ll find something amazing.

Also, invest in a corset if the dress allows, it really sucked in some of my “problem areas” and made me feel a hell of a lot better! good luck!

I was. I'm a bigger girl and I was terrified that there wouldn't be anything in my size that didn't scream plus size. I went with a select few friends and they made me feel relaxed and I found the dress with the 3rd one. I was pleasantly surprised. The fit of the dress can definitely make you look better or worse. The first dress I tried on I looked like a stuffed ivory sausage that was chopped off at the knees. It was HORRIBLE. But I knew quickly that fit of dress was not flattering. Then I tried on a different fit and loved it but then tried one last one and loved it even more.

Just go with an open mind and don't let the dresses that look terrible get you down. If I was there alone I probably would have left after the first dress because of how terrible it looked but my friends encouraged me to try on a different style and they were right!

Please try not to stress too much about dress shopping. Firstly, your partner knows you are beautiful, regardless of your dress size, and he will be absolutely smitten when he first sees you in whatever gown you choose. Secondly, most bridal consultants work with brides of all heights, weights, and figures everyday and will be able to make suggestions that not only help you look incredible, but feel your best. Whether you decide to wait a while to shop, or to embrace your fabulous self and shop today, I look forward to celebrating with you when you find the dress of your dreams!

Yes! This was me. When we finally started planning our wedding I was at the heaviest I've ever been in my life, even my face looked different, I didn't feel like myself at all. I pushed off wedding dress shopping til I was 9 and a half months out, I had only lost 3lbs and that was with working SUPER hard for months to lose weight. I went alone first because I wanted to see what looked good on me before I had my mom, and bridal party there. I didn't want to be embarrassed of how I looked with them there. To my surprise, I felt more confident trying on wedding dresses than any other clothes. Ballgowns hid my tummy and thighs (where I carry the most weight) and slimmed my waist. So I felt better about showing my mom and bridal party so I brought them. I ended up purchasing a beautiful dress that I couldn't wait to show off to the world, but I still wanted to lose weight so that at the very least my face went back to how I'm used to. I'm currently a month away from my wedding and down 12lbs, my goal was 20lbs, but I don't think that's happening. I feel a lot healthier though and my face looks like me again, even my fiance said it and he claims to not have realized my weight gain. It's difficult for me to lose weight because I've done so many extreme diets over the past few years that my metabolism isn't what it used to be. So I have to work insanely hard at the gym and be super careful with food. Anyway... what I'm trying to say is you are not alone. I couldn't get the scale to budge for soooo long ( I was taking measurements too and those weren't changing) but I have a dress I feel beautiful in and with extremely hard work I finally got some weight off and I feel much better. So hang in there, I promise you'll find a dress you feel good in

I felt exactly the same as you do. I dreaded it.
...I LOVED it. I mean, do select carefully the places that you go — I tried some consignment type stores and had no fun at all, but had a great time at the big brand stores (bhldn was my first stop and they made me feel SO good I was finally excited about the chore...David’s was fun bc they had sample dresses that actually fit, even though otherwise I didn’t like any of the dresses and they were definitely trying to make the sale — try not to let that get to you!)

i ultimately got my dress at another big store in the city. By that point, I knew exactly what style I was looking for and what worked for me, so that day was the best ever, as I could be very specific and every dress they pulled for
me was great.

That said, definitely go sooner than later. You don’t want to compromise yourself into a dress because of timeline— I shopped first at bhldn and David’s because I knew their stuff can come in quickly. I found a “back up” dress at bhldn that I liked well enough, but it wasn’t “the one” so luckily I was able to find something else that could come in on time— BUT I was definitely restricted on some designers because not all of them would work with my timeline, so I certainly closed the door on some options by waiting too long ....and I got more anxious and didn’t lose any weight the longer I waited.

Wedding dress shopping is nothing like regular dress shopping. Youre not trying things on for size, you’re tryifn them on for look, and consultants are skill at clipping dresses that are not in your size in such a way that they’ll flatter your body. It’s all in the clip work. Sample dresses are not going to fit, and they’re not supposed to. It’s a bit of a relief from trying regular dresses on off the rack and not being able to zip. This is a whole different ballgame. They put you in, they make some
magic happen, and you get the illusion of a fitted dress, no matter your size.

Trust me when I say the anxiety will just build over time. Getting it done will be a relief

I was also not excited to go dress shopping. Probably at my heaviest (thanks to grad school) and I hardly ever buy clothes. I thought it would be painful to try on dresses that don’t look right or that don’t fit. Here’s the thing though....wedding dresses come in nearly every size and shape imaginable! I really didn’t have to search to find several that looked great, and this shocked me! Go by yourself to start if you feel more comfortable that way, or just take one person...doesn’t have to be a whole entourage. I echo what others have said about the consultant...they make all the difference! Ask around for suggestions in your area. I am proof that it can be a wonderful experience even if you’re doubtful!

You will be beautiful no matter what your size- trust me! I wore a size 24W wedding dress and I couldn't stop looking at myself in the mirror all day long.

Just find something that flatters you and don't worry about the number on the tag! Wedding dress sizes are messed up anyway.

Start now and go alone then if it dreads ypou. That way only your thoughts will matter firstmost!St

I did so in June this year. Getting married in May 2019. Found mine all on my own. Better to try on dresses. Screw shopping online; I did that and became obsessed over designs yet stifled by prices that I saw. The mag ic happens when you are in a dress!