Help my family settle a disagreement. I want to knock out the seating chart, so I wrote a draft for my family. FH liked it because his family was seated altogether and mine was altogether. But his parents didn't like it because we mix the generations, so that our cousins are sitting with their parents instead of different cousins.
Here is the dilemma: his cousins are loud and irreverent and he has a ton of them. They take up two and a half tables. My cousins are shy and very religious. They only take up a 1 table together, from both sides of my family. The two sides also don't really know each other, and one set drinks, the other doesn't.
We couldn't fit all of his cousins at one table obviously, so we mixed in some of his aunts and uncles among cousins to make the numbers work. His parents think that instead of mixing in his aunts and uncles (the cousins' parents), we should mix in some of my cousins. They think if some cousins have to sit with parents on his side, they will be upset and not have fun and feel left out.
Our argument against mixing the cousins is that we don't think they will enjoy each other. We think my cousins would rather sit with their parents and would enjoy that more. His cousins might be a little miffed though, that is true.
Any advice on the best way to go about the seating chart here?