Seating 10 people at a 60 inch table, can i do it??

Honestly, I’m super uncomfortable when there’s 10 people at a 60” round. There’s almost no room on the table for anything because of all the dinnerware/glassware, and it’s very squished when everyone is trying to eat their meal.

10 is really tight, especially if you have plus sized people. Honestly, if I was uncomfortable sitting, I wouldn't be getting up to dance- I'd be looking for an excuse to leave as quickly as possible.

People have to feel relaxed to dance, not squished.

Would you want to be squished? How will you feel if someone accidentally spills something on someone else and ruins their clothing because they were so squished they couldn't move appropriately? Are you prepared for those who are squished to just leave early? If you choose to do this, I think you should think of all the potential negatives and determine if they are acceptable to you.

I would be uncomfortable if I went to a wedding that did this. You have to think about your guests comfort so they enjoy themselves. Not everyone is super skinny, and some are left handed. Instead of people hitting the dance floor, they may fake an excuse to leave.

This looks miserable. Your wedding reception is for you to thank your guests so their comfort should be your number one priority. If your guests aren't comfortable they are not going to enjoy themselves so will not be relaxed enough to dance.

Is this for a seated dinner or a cocktail style reception? If you are not having the table set for dinner but just tables for people to sitt down, then yes 10 top will work and people will fit just fine. If it is for a seated dinner then, 10 some time will work depending on the chair( chiavari chairs) but it is tighter especial if you have a full setting with chargers. They make a table you can rent that is called a 66in round and 10 people will fit great for a seated dinner and you will need a 132in table cloth to have it go to the ground.

Our budget and space is really tight, so the 60 inch table is what the venue provides for free. Alternatively, I might add an extra table, reducing the quantity to 8 per table. But that extra table will be looking at a wall since the venue has these weird pockets/ alcoves. To be honest, when I attend a wedding I'm not really looking at my own comfort as a priority. I'm a guest attending a special occassion at no expense to myself. Yes I'm bringing a gift, but they put so much more into providing me with a good time, and including me in their special day, that table room would seem trivial to me to complain about. But I can see what you guys are saying as far as people possibly leaving early. Also the people coming from out of town would be at the priority seating towards the front. So these back tables would be for people we love, but those who've invested the least in the event itself. But if 10 is TRULY squished, l'll maybe add that 4th table in the corner (for coworkers), so it'll instead be 8 to a table. And yes I'm using chiavari chairs (since I found a deal that was cheaper than the wood folding chairs), so the chairs are a little more slender. Thanks for the feedback all!!

This would be very uncomfortable for your guests assigned to these tables, ESPECIALLY the people who end up seated where a table leg will interfere with their seat.

LOL, don't matter to me?? Wow. I didn't know that subtracting a few inches of space was a f@$l you to your guests. I guess most of our friends and family are very humble people and they would be appreciative of being included despite having a tight budget.

I said "they don't matter as much" . I didn't say they don't matter at all.

"I hate to sound bad, but I kind of feel like they can deal with it lol" . The thing is, they shouldn't have to. Hosting is all about ensuring your guests comfort and needs are met, not feeling like they can deal.

Just because no one complains to the bride and groom, doesn't mean they wouldn't be complaining to each other. Most young people have never hosted a formal event before their wedding, so it's understandable that some of the hospitality basics get forgotten.

The venue should be chosen to comfortably accommodate the guest list. If you are stuck with a venue, and you can't come up with a layout that seats everyone comfortably with a view of the bride and groom, whether they are at a head, king or sweetheart table, the only alternative might be to cut the guest list.

If your options are cram people into a table they don't all fit at or have them stare at a wall, I think the only proper option is to cut your guest list.

View Quoted Comment I'm actually 33 and have organized several galas and fundraisers that have raised in excess of $400k each for major charitable organizations. I've been around the block when it comes to large scale events. With that being said, those events were for people who paid $600 a plate to be there. For my personal events, in which I'm breaking the bank to include as many close friends as possible, i think they'd also be happy to be included. I've sat at a 60 inch with 10 seats, while not ideal it didn't leave me crying about how crammed I was and cursing the couple. It was what it was and I was happy to be included in the special day; because there are so many other people that they could've included. It was more about their nuptials than my "view" at their reception table. Lol

So if you’re going to do it anyway and you have no issues when you’re seated at a table of 10, why did you ask if you can do it?

View Quoted Comment She may have wanted validation, not advice or opinions.

I was with wondering if anybody else did it, and what their tables ended up looking like. And alternatives. And then when I conceded to some valid points about tightness and mentioned adding another table with a not so great view I was still met with unabashed negativity and presumption about my knowledge of etiquette and the suggestion to cut people because I clearly don't care about them. My comment of them "dealing with it" was mostly a joke, I honestly didn't think it was that bad and was hoping that 10 to a 60
inch was more common. But seeing the reactions confirmed its more of a travesty than I realized. I don't think most of my friends would feel that way, but if everyones response was to be appalled, I guess I underestimated how awful poor seating could be perceived. I do honestly appreciate the feedback I just thought the response could've been less hostile sounding.

I find it hilarious that every single poster who doesn't get validated, calls the responders or their responses, rude or mean.

Perhaps the lesson is that hospitality should be extended to everyone, not just the guests who pay $600 per plate.

And my point, were you to have read it is that your response came across hostile. I can accept a difference of opinions, or helpful suggestions but to attack someone's sense of etiquette and suggesting they cut their guest because they obviously don't "matter as much" because they wanted to explore a less than ideal arrangement came across as hostile and yes, rude. There are ways to express opinions. And no, I'm not directing this at everyone. There was someone who suggested a 66inch table and commented on chiavari chairs being more forgiving, as a good go between. Helpful. Someone mentioned people leaving earlier if comfortable. Good feedback. From what I recall Muriel, your very first comment was ascerbic. And in regards to $600 a plate, the implication is that those funds help
fund the expenses. A wedding guest, while immensely valued emotionally, is not supporting my budget, and in lieu of cutting them entirely from the wedding my intent was to try to accommodate even those not in the "VIP" list, with alternative seating. As we all fully aware, we're constantly subject to pressure and stressful decisions, and it's heartbreaking to make the ones that perhaps will offend or hurt people. To me, a tight seating option was less hurtful than not inviting them at all. Perhaps my saying "they can deal with it" opened the floodgates for condescending responses like yours. And I will assume my sarcasm was hard to detect via text, but this decision is hard for me. I like many brides, im constantly torn between bringing my dream vision to life and cutting expenses to execute even a semblance of that. I know that my other option is to cut them entirely, and I appreciate that feedback, but the way in which you specifically made that suggestion was harsh. So I can assume you didn't read any of that as sarcasm, but rather you took it as an opportunity to attack. But not everyone realizes how they come across in text, so I'm not trying to stir up drama. I just felt it was more harsh than it needed to be. That's all. I'm well aware of etiquette and how I want my guests to feel. I would just hope that other brides would be sympathetic to those hard decisions and realize when a bride is hoping for validation, because she is caught in hard place. And if the response is to disagree it is conveyed less condescendingly.

We only had 7 or 8 to a table. Having our guests comfortable with room to easily get into and out of their chairs was highly desirable for us.

I think it would send a poor message to the guests sat 10 to a table when they look at everyone seated at the long tables, not crammed seat to seat.

I recently went to a wedding and there were 10 people sat at 60 inch tables and honestly I thought it was fine !

I have an opinon, but it doesn't agree with what the OP wants to hear. So 🔇 from this disinterested party!

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