Second marriage

Do what you & your FS want. If you want the courthouse and lunch/dinner, then do it. You don’t need anyone’s permission to do what you want.

View Quoted Comment My first marriage was a disaster it lasted less than a year. I don't want to spend a whole lot of money and it not last long like last time

If you’re having doubts about the marriage, a small wedding won’t make it better. I’d take a step back from planning and really contemplate the relationship before going forward.

This is my second time as well and I literally didn’t want to do anything that even resembled my first wedding. Nothing wrong with you doing you it’s your wedding.

View Quoted Comment I want to marry him but I'm not willing to pay out a lot of money like I did last time and have it fail like it did last time. I lost a lot of money last time and almost a year of my life to a very cruel man. The man I'm with now is a good man but still I don't want to pay out a lot of money for a wedding, dress, flowers and all the other stuff and then loose it all if something happens and it doesn't work out. I'm getting to old to be wearing a fancy dress and everything to

View Quoted Comment Then don’t pay for all those things. Do a courthouse wedding.
But I still say your statements about it all falling apart in a year make it sound like you’re having doubts, or haven’t gotten over what happened with your first marriage.

It's fine ! I don't think you need all the bells and whistles if that's not what you want. T

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I agree with this. This was a second marriage for us too. My first marriage was terrible and lasted 2 years. But I never even thought about that when I planned this wedding. But you can do anything you want and wear whatever you want, no matter if this was your first, second, or third wedding. Also, there is no age limit on wearing whatever you want, whether that be a "fancy dress" or not. I was 41 when I had this wedding and there are brides on here who are in their 50s, 60s, and even 70s. We all wore the traditional wedding dress. But wear what makes you feel beautiful.

It's your day, and if it's what works for you and your fiancee that's all that matters. I had a dinky wedding the first time I got married, and so did my FH. We're having a nicer one this time, but still not huge

View Quoted Comment My FH just told me that he's dying, he has one kidney and it's failing. I may not be getting married after all. I'm so upset 😭 right now. I finally found a good guy and he's dying

This is my second marriage too. We are having a simple, very casual outdoor wedding and a BBQ.

I say do whatever makes you guys happy.

I feel the same way! However, it’s my FH’s first wedding and he wants a whole shindig so I’m going for it. I suggested eloping several times but he really wants to get married and celebrate big. The more we get into it, the more fun I’m having, mainly at seeing his excitement. Ultimately, I’m hoping knowing what stressed me out the first time will guide me towards not having those stresses this time. 🤞🏼

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I'm so sorry I can't imagine what you must be feeling right now