Second wedding guest list!

This is 100% up to the two of you. My second wedding was larger than my first because my husband has a much larger extended family than my ex.

Hello Jenny:

Immediate family with their partner and grandparents is the way to go if you really want a very intimate event. But:

Are you close to the aunts and uncles? What about your closet friends: would you miss them if not invited?

You should decide based on how you feel about them. Ultimately, it's 100% up to the two of you.

It’s up to the two of you, just like any other wedding.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for replying! Thinking it’s going to be bigger than we originally thought!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the response. I think we would miss them!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response! We thought we wanted small but now realize there’s more people than we thought lol

Invite who you want! Really! Have a great party and share it with whoever is important to you!

I agree that you should make your decisions based on what you and your future spouse want (and your budget), rather than on the fact that this is your second wedding and/or what people might think.

The only time I have ever had negative feelings about a second wedding was my brother-in-law's. His first wedding was a huge, expensive destination wedding with lots of drama. His second wedding was less than 13 months later...and was also a huge, expensive destination wedding with lots of drama. I promise you, I will not attend his third wedding.

View Quoted Comment Oh boy! I can understand that for sure, we wanted to do a small destination wedding at first but not everyone we wanted would be able to travel so just keeping it local!

View Quoted Comment Thanks sweets!

View Quoted Comment I’m 52, FH is 62 and we are inviting EVERYONE.

Agreed with Maggie. Gone are the days of "this is my second wedding so I don't deserve a full-scale event." If you want a 300-person, $100k blowout with a couture Vera Wang gown, you have it! Whatever suits your fancy, you should do. A wedding is a wedding, no matter what number it is for each of you.

View Quoted Comment ❤️ thanks for reply! Hope it’s magical!

View Quoted Comment Aww thanks so much! I can’t wait to plan this ❤️🥰

This is completely up to the two of you. Can you take a look at your budget and figure out how much you want to spend and that can help you get an idea of how many people you want. Also think about what you really wished you would have done the first time or could have done without.

View Quoted Comment Great advice! Thanks!

Don't differentiate this as a "second wedding". It's still a first wedding between the two of you. Invite anyone you want!

View Quoted Comment Aww love that! Thank you!