Secret eloping then wedding tips

My fiancé and I are thinking about the same thing. And as I read through these comments, I’m seeing a lot of negative replies on this topic. I’d like to remind everyone that every family is different. Mine and my fiancé’s families have some issues, including but not limited to a history of ruining special dates in our lives, being overbearing, making a scene, making it all about them, etc. When I think about my wedding, I’m stressed when I should be excited. We want a marriage, the wedding just comes with it because we both have large families. Finding a way to have a special time for just the two of us is becoming more and more important. Our reasoning is that if one or more of our family members does or says something stupid at the wedding or ceremony, we won’t be so upset that they “ruined it” because we’ll still have our special secret moment.

View Quoted Comment This is the comment I was looking for. I know it’s old but this is exactly what these other people need to hear. Like I’m sorry my family will be upset but you know what? It’s not about them. It’s about the couple. Fiancé and I wanted to elope we both hate crowds and attention. Out of respect we told my parents dad,mom,stepdad, and step mom and they flipped out and said we couldn’t and that we had to have a wedding. Basically they guilted us mostly me into it. So now here i am stressed out of my damn mind with no help from anyone planning a wedding by myself. I am not excited and I am not looking forward to it. I only want to get married i dont care about the wedding and we really don’t want it. My family is exactly how you described too, everyone steals the show makes it about them causes problems and arguments so I have really been thinking about having my fiancés best friend marry us before the wedding day. It’s what we originally wanted to do so like why can’t we?