I am newly engaged. We both decided we wanted to elope, pay off debt, purchase a home, and THEN have a full wedding. We mentioned this to my father ( my mom has passed) and he would not hear of it. No was his answer. Yes, I know it’s my wedding, my choice. But I’m the only child and it’s just us two left in our family. My fiancé mom supports us and many of our friends as well.
This really puts a damper on things since we wanted to have the same last name when purchasing a home. We want our savings to go towards a down payment once we clear up our debt since the housing market is so bad right now and who knows when it will improve.
How horrible of a person would I be if I hid eloping from my dad and let him think the full wedding is real? How could I hide that we got married??
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