Self-uniting Ceremony Script

I love this. Off Beat Bride - the website has ideas. I'd figure out a location and walk there together or separately... Then facing each other talk about what marriage means to you while touching each others face tenderly or holding hands... Then maybe each recites a song lyrics, or poem, or story about when you met or when you knew you'd be together forever or decided to propose. Then hold hands and say vows and exchange rings. Then each of you can announce to each other that you are now the wife/bride/partner of .... And the other person can do the same. Then kiss and hug or be silly and let the moment drive what comes next... And be sure to enjoy all the photo opportunities.


It's really up to you! Congratulations!!!

What state are you in? I know this is only allowed in some states and I wonder if your state might have some resources they can point you towards, since self-uniting ceremonies aren't all that common or allowed everywhere.

Since it's just the two of you and your photographers I think it could feel weird to add scripted ceremony formatting in! I love ideas that Laura shared instead!

You could write each other letters and read them to each other and then exchange vows and rings. Or you could both start by sharing a special memory from your relationship or surprising each other with a passage / reading you picked for the ceremony.

One of my husband's friends wrote wedding vows for his wife to read to him (and vice versa) - they exchanged vows at the ceremony and read them for the first time in front of everyone. They were so funny and incredibly moving, I still get choked up thinking about it!

We are also doing a self-uniting ceremony in a couple of weeks (with big wedding to follow next year). I looked at some of the ideas online, but most of them were about couples doing this in front of a larger gathering which didn't apply to us since it will be just the two of us. I personally, wanted to have a script so that it did feel more formal like a wedding and it would go smoother since we plan to video it. Also, I didn't want to later realize we had missed something. Ours will only be a couple of minutes, but includes: stating why we are there, a shared reading of a poem, vows we put together, ring exchange and then announcing we are husband and wife with a kiss. Simple, but hit all the key elements for us. Oh, and at this time I think I am planning to walk to a spot that FH is standing at, but we will need to check out the space the day before.