(Semi-NWR) Taking off work

And I was talking to my sister about it and she said "Well it's probably because they will want to request off to do things for summer vacation with their kids and may not be able to because you'll be gone so long." So that made me feel bad. I put in for this time off back in February to make sure I got it. But I really wasn't thinking about how it would interfere with my coworkers. We have a few part time nurses who come in as needed and one of them is picking up all my days while I'm gone. I feel bad, because the week after my wedding I really am not doing anything but packing and enjoying time with FH and our daughter, we won't leave for honeymoon until 6-18. I feel like I should go to my boss and tell her I can work my regular days during that week. Should I?

That's totally up to you. But don't let coworkers talk you out of your honeymoon though. The week after your wedding, you deserve to rest and relax. You seriously asked for time off a year and a half in advance. That is good pre-planning and if they are already making comments, that is just ridiculous. You're getting married! Let them talk. It will fade. Take your time and enjoy your honeymoon, all of it!

I know you haven't finished yet, but this is a sticky situation. First and foremost, take your vacation. You've done the right thing by saving your time up and now your using your rightly earned time for something of your choice. On the other hand, it's very different to cover for someone else for a day versus three whole weeks. I'm not a nurse, so I'm not sure how they handle your absence as far as staffing, but where I work when someone's out, we just cover the slack. I can see where your co-workers might be stressed or nervous about being a person down for such a long time, and honestly they're probably jealous too. Who doesn't want three weeks off of work?!?

They'll get over it. Don't them rain on your parade. It's not like your taking months and months off.

ETA: You had finished by the time I posted this, but my response doesn't change. Yes, your time might affect someone else's ability to take off, but when they take off the same thing happens. It's not like this a surprise.

I think its up to you. You will just be there a week before you honeymoon i would just keep that time off and enjoy the extra time off with your FH and daughter.

I wouldn't, and they should be happy for you and supportive. I know health care is tough because I work in it but there's no need for their remarks, your boss okay'd the days so if they have an issue they should take it to your boss not you. And I think spending time with kids and taking vacations is very important but so is your wedding they need to chill out.

Nope. I'm sorry but you have accumulated this time and deserve your time off. I don't think they think of you when they plan any time off. Don't worry too much about it, you are almost at your time off and it will all fade away soon. Enjoy your 3 weeks. Good Luck :-)

@mimitrue I asked off the past February, not last February. Just clarifying. But thanks for the advice... I me telling myself I deserve this. I haven't missed a day of work in over a year.

Nope nope nope.

You saved up that time and you'll probably never get to do it again. Not your fault you planned way ahead.

I've been at my job over 12 years. I have 4 weeks of vacation every year. And you can bet your ass I take them in the summer when my kids are off school. I request off at the beginning of January, so I can make plans/payments for our vacations, and find daycare for the other weeks. I have zero regrets if it interferes with others' plans after the fact.

Personally, I feel like you earned that time off and should take it as you please. You said there are people filling in for you while you are gone, so it's not as though the work load would fall on any of your co-workers.

As far as the whole thing about the others not being able to take any vacation at that time, this could be applied to any other time someone takes vacation. Don't worry about it! You planned far in advance and covered your bases. If they want to be pissy, let them.

To hell with your co workers...take your time off and enjoy it...you earned it.

Sounds like you never take time, off, are never late, etc, so I would take the time and enjoy. Yes, it can be frustrating covering for a coworker on vacation but that's part of the job. You're allowed to use your vacation time, that's what it's for.

I agree with everyone else. You earned your time, use it!

It sucks that your coworkers are so rotten. I'm honestly surprised they are being so rude. You got your dates in first...you win the prepared award, and they lose. IMHO, I don't think you should feel bad at all....I wouldn't. If that makes me a horrible person, oh well.

I would take your time... you earned it and you put it in first. They'll get over it and i'm sure they would have done the same if they were getting married.

I'm a nurse too but I work on a realllllly large unit (over 400nurses) so time off isn't a big deal and we accrue a lot more hours. ANYWAY you saved your one because you knew this was something you wanted to take time off for. Not your fault they didn't or don't do that. If they had something important planned then they should have made sure they got their requests in. Don't let them make you feel guilty for taking this time. It was approved for a reason. Enjoy it. Relax. Just don't parade around your co workers all the time off you have. (Not saying you were)

I wouldn't NOPE. You are taking off 3 weeks not 3 months. They will still have plenty of time to take off this summer.

Don't let jealous bitches get you down.

I do the same thing, take all my vacation time at once - and my counterpart bitches, but she takes on average more time per year than I do. I just take it all together. Enjoy and have well rested eyes for your HM!

It's for your wedding and honeymoon for crying out loud. They can get over it. I have people at my job who make comments that I get special treatment because I get days off when others are denied. But guess what, I'm planning a wedding and going to meetings / appointments, not going to the beach etc...Your co-workers will be fine, and will get over it. I am sure you have had to, or will have to, step in for them at some point at work.

There are way more than 3 weeks in the summer, they can still have time off.

It's your wedding and you should have the time off.

Hellllllll no don't work...especially if you don't want to. Don't let them make you feel guilty about using YOUR time off for YOUR wedding. You earned that time off and you deserve to enjoy every single last second of it!

This is not something that's going to happen all the time - it's your wedding! They should realize that, build a bridge and get OVER IT! Sorry you're having to deal with co-workerzillas.....

Nope, you are totally entitled to take that time off all at once if you want to.

The person who is taking your days agreed to take all of them, so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

You take your time, and you enjoy it. When will you EVER get to have 3 weeks in a row off again? lol