Seperate Vacations as Newlyweds/Committed

DH is taking a trip in February to a "sports statistics conference." He will be taking that one alone and I will be spending the weekend with my sister lol.

Its definitely healthy to have time apart and separate interests. I could see not wanting your "big" vacation of the year to be apart though.

I used to do a week at Omega Institute every year and I miss is. It's good to have time apart!

The most I've done is going on a few overnight bachelorette parties. Other than that, I wouldn't want to spend an entire week or two without my husband.

We go on separate trips at times because of our schedules. He traveled a lot this fall. He had 2 trainings for work, and he had to go down to Anchorage for a doctor's appointment.

I am going to a conference in february and I think he is coming with me. It will be nice break from the village.

This spring I am going to my cousin's wedding and he will be at training. For our summer trip to WI, I may go early/stay late because it is summer and I have time off and he doesn't have that much time off.

I would like to travel with him more, but our schedules and time off don't always align.

We take separate trips and trips with each other. He can't be my only source of entertainment/socializing and I can't be his. It isn't healthy. We do stuff without the other all the time. Even at home, he'll go watch sports in the basement while I watch my shows upstairs.

We travel without each other. FH does weekend trips with his buddies, and I travel to see my college friends or for "concationing" (a word my friend made up for using conferences as an excuse to take a vacation--I've been to New Orleans, Puerto Rico, Portland, and I'm going to San Diego in March for concation!). We travel without each other over the holidays. I mean, I miss him, but I don't see anything wrong with traveling without your partner.

Though he's pissed about not coming to San Diego. I told him he could come if he could pay for the flight and hotel room (my department will fund me for that as long as I share a room with other people from my department) and he shut up about it haha.

We both have annual girls/guys weekends (3-4 day trips) that are long-standing traditions with our closest friends. We have zero plans to change these plans.

Also, sometimes I travel to see my family without him (2-5 days at a time) and sometimes he spends time with his family, particularly his dad, without me. We both have somewhat demanding work schedules and it is not always possible to get away at exactly the same time. When we can carve out that time, we prefer to spend it alone as a couple than try to squeeeeze in visits to every person we know.

Do I miss him when we are apart? Sure. Do we sometimes need that time for our own sanity? Absolutely.

I have never, ever understood couples that are perpetually attached at the hip and always come as a "unit."

We definitely travel without each other, but we've found that we make good travel partners so we like traveling together and we've probably traveled together more than separately lately.

Like a lot of ladies have said, we make it a point to keep some parts of our lives separate, particularly socially and keeping up with friends. We also like to bring our two social scenes together when we can.

All that to say to you, you should go and have fun with your girlfriends. You probably won't regret going but might regret missing the trip.

I think it's whatever the couple likes. Your friend likes to travel without her SO, you don't. So if a girls' weekend doesn't sound fun to you, just pass. As for me, personally, I usually travel with DH, but sometimes visit family without him. I don't mind, but he gets *desperately* lonely..... I think it's good for him.

I would never take a separate trip from my husband unless I was going to a bachelorette party or something family-related for a weekend and his schedule prevented him from coming. We haven't taken a separate trip since we started dating over 4 years ago.

We take separate trips all the time (I go to Europe because I love it, he travels in the US and does Civil War reenactments). We have our own money and do what we want - I want to travel. He wants his hobbies. He's not as big into travel as I am.

In fact, I hope to get accepted to a month-long teacher program in Rome this summer. He will probably not visit me because of the cost.

I think its healthy to have time apart sometimes, I regularly visit my family for a week or 2 and FH stays at home, and he is totally fine with it, absence makes the heart grow fonder

International trips though I actually prefer to do with him, we are incredibly busy people and I love the time away in our own little bubble. I can only ever afford one trip a year, so Iwould rather do it with FH, but if I had more money, I wouldnt hesitate in short trips away. The last vacation away from my FH was to miami for the NKOTB cruise (dont judge ) it was a great trip but I couldnt do it again without him, thats just me

If your finances allow, go to mexico one little treat now and again wont hurt you

We do it all the time ....I think it's a sign of a healthy trusting relationship . My EX husband who was a control freak never let me take trips without him ....I've learned from that experience !

We haven't taken a full blown vacation apart but we have certainly traveled for extensive periods of time alone. Being dual military we are often apart and sometimes he goes to amazing places. Once he had to go to Florida for two months and I joined him for a week and we went to Disney-world. I've been a bridesmaid three times and went to the DW alone. He is going to be a camp counselor with his church and I have no desire to go with him so he will be doing that alone as well. His first boy's trip will be his bachelor party in Vegas. Similar to previous posters I think its healthy to allow your partner time away with family, friends, etc but within reason. For some of us time away is inevitable thus making it no big deal.

As others have said, I think it depends on vacation time/money (and other logistics--when we first moved in together, DH went to visit his family in CT for a weekend and I was in PA at home without a vehicle, which freaked me out a little).

DH suddenly has 6 weeks of vacation this year, so he might go visit friends with one of his weeks off depending on my school/work schedule. Our HM is actually the first vacation we've taken together, although throughout college and his grad school, we used to drive up to MA together and then each visit our separate families and drive back together. I'm hoping we can go on a weekend trip together this spring, and then maybe a longer vacation over the summer. I would be pissed if he decided to go by himself on an expensive trip somewhere though.

Nights out or weekends with girlfriends is one thing and should be no big deal. But like others said , there's only so many vacation days as well as vacation money , and I prefer to spend that with FH. If you work at different places , then you already away from your spouse for majority of the week , the time you have together is still sparce and precious. Not saying I wouldn't turn down a girls trip !! Just wouldn't want to do anything you would do back in the single days ...