Sept Brides, how ya feeling?

I’m also Sept 6th! I spent the first 3 weeks of April crying, and the last 2 weeks trying not to think about it. With so many elderly and immune-compromised guests I’ve decided to postpone. Makes me sick doing all this planning over again. I will probably go for an “all-inclusive” venue this time instead of the original plan (lodge in woods for ceremony, museum in town for reception). I haven’t started looking at dates for 2021 but I can’t imagine having my wedding without being able to hug everyone. Good luck to everyone in this situation.

I'm a September 12th bride!! We have about a 300 person guest list, but have a feeling that will go down (not sad about it) from our older family members, which would be okay. We plan to distance tables/add more tables to have less people sitting around at one table. I go between nervous/anxious to optimistic. My fiancé and mother aren't worried at all. We've been engaged for 2 years and I don't want to postpone if we don't have too, but would understand if we did. All our venders are optimistic, which also makes me feel a little better. Upstate NY where I am is starting to open up this Friday, so we will know a lot more in a month! My heart goes out to all the other 2020 brides!!

9/19 here...cancelled. We were doing destination down to Florida and I have zero comfort in having people get on airplanes and stay in hotels or an air BnB. We'll have a small ceremony here in DC (well that is when we can actually get a marriage license...#closedcourthouse) and have a party another time. This literally makes me cry at least once a week. We're HS sweethearts who've FINALLY decided to tie the knot and to not have all the people we know and love there, makes me so sad....

Our wedding was scheduled for 9/13/2020 in Malvern, Pennsylvania. We made the painful decision to postpone until 9/12/2021. We made this decision based on the sad truth that a vaccine will not become available by then. Without a vaccine, we do not believe that our guests will feel comfortable being in close proximity to celebrate. Guests would have to fly in and stay in hotels, and we do not feel it will be safe for them to do so. If you are thinking of postponing, it will be easier to do so earlier to ensure you can get the date you want the following year. With the social distancing measures being relaxed, I truly believe we are setting ourselves up for a second wave in the Fall. It does not mean that this virus is going away, only that people feel that they need to return to their jobs to survive economically. I did not want to see masks at my wedding, and I did not want to have to sit them six feet apart. My best to all!

View Quoted Comment Are you in Texas? Just wondering! 9/20 here and very anxious- but ready to slash our guest list if we have to...

September 5 bride here. I have been going back and forth between postponing or just downsizing for now and having a vow renewal later. There are so many unknowns that it is difficult to make a decision. I’m planning to make a decision by the end of the month so that I can be a little less stressed.

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I'm in Illinois. We're still keeping our fingers crossed that we can have everything as planned on our day but starting the process of working with our venue (and eventually vendors once we get some available 2021 dates) to come up with a Plan B. We're not willing to compromise on our guest list to cut it down to less than 50 if that's still the limit. We'll still have a small intimate "ceremony" on our day to get married but postpone the reception for next year if that's the case.

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Wow! didn’t realize september 6th was gonna be such a popular day. i’m in the same boat as all you ladies. would love to keep it small if necessary. save the dates went out already to friends and family. my parents’ friends have not received the save the dates so they may be among the ones getting cut from our guest list if we have to keep it small. fingers crossed for all the 2020 brides 💕

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Illinois (northwest suburbs). What about you?

View Quoted Comment My wedding is in Charlotte, NC on September 6th

Wedding is Sept 19, like a few others. I’m not worried. A lil over 100 invited. SC has opened up and I’m sure there will be a second wave. We are over 4 months out so things should be fairly good by then. But who knows!

View Quoted Comment Gotcha! I’m in Texas and our capacity limit is 25% - not certain if that includes vendors or not, but I think not... so we’re looking at 75 (hopefully excluding vendors) and our guest list is already at a tight 150... lol. I honestly don’t want to reschedule; it’s too much anxiety for me to wait a longer time... (honestly we are ready to start on kids, if I’m being frank lol) I spoke to my fiancé yesterday and think we’re gonna start on a plan b, but actually making it plan A until we get the okay for a bigger capacity. —- a plan that includes every safety measure so we don’t compromise health or our guest list from being even less than it would be at 75. A small but CERTAIN 75. lol we already had an “adults only” reception, so I figure making adjustments and just getting really up front and asking people, are you coming EVEN with restrictions- that way we don’t waste time planning BIG especially when some people are more endangered/afraid then others. Also, Cost will definitely go up for a lot of things I think going forward, until there’s a vaccine and that really sucks. I do like your untainted ceremony idea- We are discussing making our ceremony - immediate family only- and having our reception/cocktail hour/temperature and Covid health check early for everyone else while the wedding goes on!

View Quoted Comment We’re mid Missouri, around Columbia. Things are opening back up but someone whose wedding is in July had to cut her list down to 50... I just don’t know at this point

We were supposed to get married on April 11th of this year, but we postponed our date to September 27th due to COVID-19. We still got married on our original date with just an intimate backyard wedding and doing a Zoom call for family members/wedding party to join, and I'm SO glad that we chose to do that! However, I'm also starting to feel some concern about our September date, and unsure about if we would even want to postpone for a second time if things aren't looking good by then. We want to have our 'big day' and celebrate with all of our friends and family (which would only be approximately 100 people) so we are really hoping things continue to progress in a positive way. But another concern I've been having is with most of my husband's family coming from Mexico, and the uncertainty of the government lifting traveling restrictions between the U.S. borders. Gah. Just waiting it out until early July like most other September brides and hoping & praying for the best.

View Quoted Comment Speaking of Mexico! My aunt is actually supposed to fly in from there in July to take my measurements and start on my wedding dress! Imagine! I can’t even get a plan B dress right now with everything going on! I’m starting to panic, seeing as I put all my eggs in THAT basket! I never thought this would happen!!

Im sept 12 and I am really having a tuff time emotional rollercoaster

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How awesome that your aunt is doing that for you, but wow, with everything going on that's such a difficult situation to be in! Praying that everything works out for the both of us!

Welp we made the decision to postpone and picked a new date in June 2021 🙁 We’re sad and it sucks, but we felt it was the right decision. We have close family and I have 2 bridesmaids with underlying conditions and at this point it didn’t seem like a lot of our guest list would feel totally comfortable attending, especially because we are inviting 158 guests. We couldn’t imagine our wedding without the fun celebration we want with people dancing and enjoying themselves and we didn’t think that would happen on 9/6, even if things start to open up. We will probably get legally married this year anyway, but still plan to do a wedding ceremony. So now I’m a June bride!