Sex Break Before Wedding??

I don't see the point in taking a break. The sexual relationship is SO important. If you're waiting for marriage that's one thing, but to go from having that special intimate relationship to not, can't be healthy for your relationship.

At first we tried for a 2 month break, then it was a 1 month break, then it was a 2 week break... Oh well lol.

My FH says that our "break" can be the night before the wedding. I was joking with him when we got engaged and told him, that's it, no more sex until the wedding. His response was, Ok, looks like we are going to the courthouse tomorrow. LOL

Sorry but a relationship is not about sex, marriage is. If someone is going to leave you or be mad at you because you are not giving them your body for use (sex) then they dont love you the right way. giving your whole self/your body to someone is what marriage is. Kimberly that is great that you are doing that I applaud you. Just because the majority of people are doing something doesnt make it right. Hitler had a million followers, Jesus had 12. Im just saying that I wouldnt wanna marry a guy who would "kill me" if i didnt have sex with him during the engagement/dating. Just reflect on that. Waiting to have sex just shows that you're not in it for the physical and that there is more to you than your body, irregardless of how good it is or how it bonds you. Thats why you get married-for that sexual bond. If you don't agree thats fine, I'm just trying to explain the logic for those who are questioning this situation.

Theresa I think the Hitler reference is over the top and also when people say their "FH would kill" them... they are exaggerating in a joking tone. Appreciating the sexual bond with your partner before marriage does not mean you are only in it for the sex... Just as for those who abstain, being married isn't only about finally having sex.

Loving some of the comments.

We took about a 3 week break & I'm glad we did bc it made it a little more special without effecting our night lol. To me it was kind of like seeing him the morning before for the rehearsal but then not again until our first look. We were exhausted by the end of the night but we missed each other so much that we didn't miss out on anything

Wow I'm glad someone mentioned Hitler in a sex post. It had to be done I suppose.

2 weeks, that's it and partly because I'll be out of commission for 1 week and the other week we will have guest. F*** 17 months!

FH and I go without sex for a week or more sometimes, just because we have two kiddos and he works a lot.

But actually taking a break? No thank you. We will the night before only because we'll be spending the night apart.

WOW theresa... Just WOW.

If my marriage was solely about sex, I would not be happy at all. I'd be miserable. If I was only getting married to have sex, I would probably be an immature and silly woman who knew little about having a healthy relationship.

I never gave my man my body for "use." I showed him that I loved him dearly by making love with him. A physical relationship is about love and passion - not about freaking prostitution or whatever you're insinuating!

Honestly, people who think like Theresa get married at 18 years of age just to have sex and then get divorced five years later (when they grow up a little). (Totally not saying that younger people don't have the maturity to get married -- but people who are mostly interested in getting laid are too immature to get married.)

So is it time for Hitler memes? :-P

I'm in a LDR so we'll have a break no matter what.

I seriously hate the whole take a break thing. I don't see a point in stopping. It will still be special on our wedding night, we will be in a fancy hotel, I will look amazing, and we will be married.

I wanted my husband to "last" on our wedding night, so no, we took no break, and we had more sex than usual leading up to our wedding

Irregardless..... AHHH, omg. The pain... that's not a word.

We haven't had sex in about 7 months now and probably won't until after the wedding in 4 months. We've fooled around since and he's finished and everything but I told him straight up when we started dating that sex will not be the foundation of our relationship and he can accept that or move on. He agreed with me on that and we got engaged a year later, after 2 months of no sex. It's not difficult for me, for him it is and I get that and he can do what he needs to, just no sex. It's a medical condition on my part so that's why it's very easy for me to not want it.

Well my soon to be husband and I are still virgins, but we made a decision not to kiss 3 month before the wedding, so when we do kiss again it will be something special. He's moving to texas in 3 weeks and I'm staying home in Maryland to get money and plan and such, while he's setting us up down there. Its going to be hard cause I have no idea how we are going to go through pre maritial counseling!

We are not planning to take a break although I am sure the week before the wedding we will be running around and be too busy for sex.

@Jess B. I can relate! My FH and I also made the decision to wait. We have not had sex throughout our 4-yrs relationship and recently decided to stop kissing. So our next kiss will be at the altar, and our wedding night will be very very special!

Xoxo