"Shacking Up" Before Marriage

So, I DO live with my "fiance". We too decided to live together for economic reasons ONLY 6 months prior to our wedding BUUUUUUUT to honor our Lord we had a private ceremony in our Pastor's office. So, that means my fiance is actually my husband 😉. We were adamant about paying cash for our wedding and living together sooner permitted us to do that. But we know better. We went to our Pastor, he understood and was happy that we decided to do it the right way. We will celebrate our actual day of marriage privately. And our public ceremony, that day we'll celebrate publicly. No one knows we were married a few months early except our parents and close friends😊 and we agreed not to share any details about our living arrangements with anyone. But, if by chance we were ever questioned, we were covered.

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You're welcome.

View Quoted Comment You said it right! Marriage is MINISTRY! It is an extension of Christ's ministry. What baffles me is that Soooooooo MANY christian couples have THE WRONG understanding of what marriage is, why God created it and it's purpose according to HIS word and HIS plan. We live life like Jesus isn't returning for a SPOTLESS Church. And those living in disobedience will NOT BE SAVED! Why chance it! In your 7 years of "shacking" Jesus could return and then what will you say to him? 'Well Lord, I loved my man more than YOU'...??? Is it worth being thrown into the pits of hell? To LOVE God means to be obedient. Those that LOVE him OBEY him. Scripture is clear about who will NOT inherit the kingdom of God.... and fornication is on the list. Folks.... Jesus is coming soon! If you follow biblical prophecy then you understand what this means. There's no time for playing games. STAY in right standing with your Lord. Be ready to meet Jesus. See you in the air😉

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As long as you are doing what is best for you and your spouse, you can't go wrong.

I agree. As long as what I think is best isn't contradictory to God's word.

We moved in together 3 months after we started dating. We eloped on our 2 yr anniversary. I don't think I could marry someone I hadn't lived with before lol. Things get REAL when you live together LOL! (this is my second marriage, I lived with my first husband before marrying him too)

I agree with you and feel that you guys are already kinda married, just with the paperwork.

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We're already living together. By the time we actually walk down the aisle we'll have been living together for a year. Luckily our families, though Christian, are really modern and didn't care that we lived together before getting married. Personally, I'm glad we did it this way. It worked better for our situation, and that's really all that matters. Oh, that and we love each other.

View Quoted Comment What made you decide to elope?

View Quoted Comment I do believe that marriage is between the couple and God. The paperwork makes it legal under the law.

View Quoted Comment I love that your families were not judgemental.

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My husband lol. When he proposed he didn't want to wait an entire year to make it official. I'm kind of a wiseass so I said I'm not pregnant, you don't need a green card (he's Puerto Rican) and I don't need health insurance so what is the hurry? (I'm not an asshole, I'm not trying to offend, that's just my sense of humor!) We'd been together two years, have 6 kids between us and we knew from our first date that we were going to be together forever. We'd been through a LOT btwn blending families and other things - he said he just wanted to make me Mrs. Gonzalez officially and wasn't going to wait. So we got married in a park on the two year anniversary of our first date and our reception/vow renewal (I guess lol) is on our 3 yr anny/1yr anny.

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Exactly, granted now, I realized that I said with the paperwork, lol

100 % agree. I have been with FH for 7 years, living together for 6 years. & we literally know every quirk about each other. What gets on our nerves... What doesn't get on our nerves. I couldn't imagine being together 7 years, not living together then getting married, move in together and not even know what one another is like in the comfort of the home.

It's nothing against anyone.... "moving in" just came natural and it was something we knew we wanted after a year of dating.

It's worked for us. Even tho it may not work for anyone else.

My fiance and I actually moved in together before he even proposed. Honestly, our relationship naturally progressed that way and I wouldn't change anything about the way we did things. This gave us the chance to REALLY see who each other was. It answered so many questions before we got married and felt "stuck" with each other.

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If your faith and beliefs are strong then what you think is best should be in alignment with God's word right.

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Oh, I see. I wanted to elope initially but my husband convinced me otherwise.