Shared weddings?

@714HBBride -

Just remember, casting directors are going to want to create "drama" for what they think is an interesting show. So likely trying to get you into tears or zilla mode or mothers snarking or whatever and not getting what you want.

I saw on these boards a few years ago, two instances:

Say Yes to the Dress - a bride posted that she was in the show, they took her mother into a separate room and got her crying and clipped the whole thing. Not a great experience.

Bridezilla - on the vendors forum, a planner spoke about how one of her brides was on this show and totally acting the part - she actually was a sweetheart. BUT because people watching it thought it was real, caused her issues in real life with family/friends AND potential jobs!!!

Just fyi.

I've never seen it or heard of it...I wouldn't want to share my day, it's suppose to be all about YOU!

Nope.

Oh hellllllll no.

Getting married is an emotional experience to begin with. Add the term "casting director" and that is a recipe for unwarranted drama that will follow you for the rest of your life. I do not think a casting director would have your best interests at heart. This is your wedding day!

Soooooo you're saying that there's going to be a show about double weddings? Sounds like Oxygen....

We're not gonna do it. But there will be a show. They wouldn't tell us the network. I think it might be Bravo.

I know 2 sisters that did. They got engaged a month apart, have the same circle of friends, almost identical taste in everything, and have always been inseparable. If they didn't combine it they would have still married within a few months of each other. As a guest, I was happy to celebrate both of them without having to make the OOT trip 2 times in a year. The wedding made sense for them.

It's not my cuppa tea and I'm not close enough to anyone to share the day.

I wouldn't ever consider it. To me the day is about the couple and their relationship. No matter how close the two couples may be to each other the day isn't about that relationship and they should each get their own time to honor their marriage.

I can imagine that if my sister and I both got engaged around the same time, it would make sense to have a double wedding. Family members would only have to travel once to attend both weddings. And we could save money by sharing the cost of venue, food, etc.

What I cannot imagine is wanting to have my wedding featured on a show. The shows seem to focus on creating drama where there was none, and making your wedding a performance rather than a meaningful personal thing. I'd stay far away from that!

I wouldn't risk letting a show take over my wedding. The money would make it tempting, but I think you are right to decide against it.

As for a shared wedding, I actually have 3 much older cousins (sisters) who had a triple wedding. They all got engaged around the same time and none of them wanted to wait (for various reasons) so instead of asking relatives to make 3 trips they just had one big wedding. This was years ago now and they don't regret it. In fact they often get together for anniversary trips. I wouldn't do it, but it worked for them.

So much nope....

I saw this one time, on Facebook, and it was a girl I knew (not well) growing up.

In this situation, it sort of looked like she latched onto someone else's wedding. It was so strange.

Think about all the reality shows you've ever seen. They choose people who create drama. Let's set up a hypothetical scenario: you want a nice, relaxing wedding on the beach so they're probably going to pair you with someone who wants to have a mardi gras themed wedding in the city. Drama increases a show's ratings. No one's going to watch a show where everything works out nice and smooth.

I wouldn't do it for a $100,000. It's not worth it to me.

Sharing the cost is tempting, but even people close to us have very different styles, and it wouldn't feel like "us" if we had to made decisions as 4 people instead of 2.

The wedding reality TV reach is huge...early in our engagement we were approached by a Bravo casting director about doing a reality show about couples in their 30s having over the top weddings. Another couple we know was in talks with them and referred us. I think they wanted 4 couples who knew each other. FH said no way right away, and I wasn't really into it either. Besides, we wouldn't have made it far in the casting process once they knew our low-for-NJ wedding budget and heard more about the wedding we are planning!

I've heard of the idea. I'm just to selfish and wouldn't share lol

Honestly, the only reason I was willing to consider this was my family. We could change our wedding date to March and lose very minimal costs. We have had our date booked for quite some time, and just within the last two months my brother enlisted with the Air Force and is leaving for boot camp the last week of March and will now be unable to attend our wedding. It was worth it to me to get a chance to get out of our date with very minimal penalty to allow my brother (who is very important to me) to be at our wedding.

But it's not happening. We told them no when they called back today.

I don't think I could.

.. my dad joked about my sister and i doing this, in his classic 'cringe worthy dad joke' fashion. i had no idea this was something people actually, legitimately did.

This is strange lol.