Sharing Calendars & Finances

We've been living together for years. But we don't do any of that. We have a joint bank account. And we just communicate about what bills are due and how much will be coming out of the account. And as far as calender events....i mean we just tell each other what we have to do that day. And as far as making time. We see each other in the morning before work, text throughout the day and then obviously when we get home. And weekends.

Right now we just each pay certain bills that we agreed on when I moved into his house. We'll start blending finances a little more once we're actually married (keeping separate accounts, but also opening shared ones).

I'm a huge calendar person! We use Google calendar and it's awesome. I actually have 2 set up, one only I can see and one we both can see/edit. This is just because I literally put everything on there and he doesn't need all the clutter on his. My personal calendar is color coded, but our joint one isn't (he doesn't want too much to look at lol).

Hi! We use google calendars which allows you to share your calendar with whoever you invite. I like that because I can have a personal calendar for reminders (don’t set reminders on your joint calendar cuz it will go off for him too!) and still be able to check if he has to work or something before I try to plan something.

As for finances, we created a joint account that we both deposit money into to cover bills, groceries, etc. Our direct deposit still goes into our separate accounts and we just transfer what we need into the joint account. We keep track of how much each of us has in the joint account using google sheets because it can be shared with both of us and both of us can edit it. Hope you find this helpful. Congratulations on your marriage!

We're not married yet but here's what we do since we live together and pay all household bills together. I hope it's helpful.

Calendar: Because I'm in law school and do a lot of community service activities, I added FH to my Google Calendars. Since doing that, we have each added our work schedules (mine changes every semester), gym times, nail appointments, work trips, etc. Everything is color coded.. I'm a big planner and FH is not so it took a while for him to get used to actually adding his plans to the calendar. Sometimes, he would make commitments for us to attend things as a couple when I couldn't attend because he didn't check the calendar first. BUT he now checks regularly and it has helped with the wedding planning and upcoming conferences/trips we have to take.

Finances: We have one joint checking account and one joint savings account. We each have a portion of our income directly deposited into both each month. The checking account is used for rent, renters; insurance, online streaming services for the house (netflix, hulu, etc.), utilities, etc. The savings account is for the wedding (right now). house down payment, and emergencies. We each maintain separate bank accounts, IRAs, etc. and will continue to do so after marriage. We use Google Sheets for our household budget so we can both access it at anytime.

I usually make plans then just notify my husband. Like I made plans to go down the beach with my cousin in 2 weeks. Then told him oh btw I'm going to the beach in 2 weeks. Sometimes I ask to make sure he didn't already have plans but he's one to ask me first so I knew the dates were open.

Finances: I have my accounts. He has his. We opened a joint for wedding gift money. As long as the bills we agreed upon are paid, idgaf what he does with his money.

Calendars: I hate apps/mobile calendars. I like to see it all written out for the whole month. I have a calendar up in my kitchen and write out our schedules, appointments or plans on there. It's open to see clearly so him saying he didn't know about something there is no excuse if it was on the calendar.

We've had a joint Google calendar for years (we created it about 6 months into dating). I have my own personal one for tracking work things, my period, etc. and a joint one for events we are attending, appointments, noting when we will be home late etc. We generally check with each other before agreeing to things and double check the calendar to be safe. We also ensure we are maintaining good lines of verbal communication. We see each other for about a half hour in the morning and usually discuss what is going on after work and if something comes up during the day or one of us will be running late we generally text each other throughout the day too.

We spend a lot of time together including most evenings and weekends. We may be doing our own things but, usually we are in the rec room together so we can chat. If we are both home we eat dinner together. Generally, we spend at least 1 hour before bed doing something together (usually watching Netflix as we have a lot of shows that we've designated as our shows to watch together).

I don't have a specific budget app that we use but, we do have joint and separate accounts. We have a joint chequing and savings account that we use for household and joint expenses. We have each agreed on contributing a certain amount per month and transfer this in from our personal accounts. Our bills, mortgage, insurance, etc. all comes out of this account. We also have an automatic withdrawal done monthly that goes into a joint house savings account for repairs/upgrades we want to make. Honestly, I hate money things so, FH manages most of this. I have complete access and can review it whenever and he always updates me on what bills have come in, the balance of the accounts and stuff and how our investments are doing but, he does the day to day management. We also have an excel spreadsheet that we share that we use to create a household budget. We each have separate accounts too for individual savings, personal expenses, retirement savings, investments, etc. Neither of us care or have any say over what the other person does with their individual account as long as they contribute their share to the shared account each month.

I love our setup and wouldn't change it one bit.

Google is always nice for calendars, then you can share it but also be able to specify between yours and his. We don't set boundaries really, but if we need time with each other because we aren't getting enough, we let the other know and make more time! We don't use any app besides our banking app for finances.

Since we're both on iPhones, we've just been using the Calendar app there. Neither one of us usually schedules anything without the other at least being aware that its coming...though sometimes he'll make a plan for date night and put it there so I get it as a surprise alert. His phone has been a little wonky lately and it doesn't alert him when I post things, but they are there when he opens the app.

We bought a house last fall, and set up a joint checking account for all house expenses. We figured out the monthly total for mortgage, utilities, house emergency savings, etc, and each direct deposit/transfer our half into it. Most things are set up on auto-pay from there. Then we still have our own checking/savings accounts for personal expenses.

We use our Google calendars. I can add him to a calendar invite, and vice versa.

Budgeting is all mine...!

H and I bought our house last April, and got married this May. We still keep our bank accounts separate. But we bought a big dry erase board, and fill it out at the beginning of each month with all of our bills that are due. And we split the price of groceries. If one of us doesn’t have enough to pay our bills the other person pitches in. We also make sure all bills are paid before we spend any money on items that aren’t a necessity. And we don’t lie about our finances to each other. We also keep all our usernames/passwords written down in a notebook just in case something happens to one of us. It works out really well for us, because it leaves us both with spending money each month. We don’t go on a lot of dates because we are usually so busy with doctor visits, or working on house stuff. And we just bought a pool and got 2 puppies so we will probably be in it all summer instead of going on dates lol. Plus I’m pregnant so we will be focusing on baby stuff soon. We always eat meals together and H knows I have trouble sleeping without him. And at least once a week he has to sing me to sleep! Our relationship is just so easy going and we really don’t have any boundaries or rules or whatever you’d want to call them. Except for one, and that’s don’t watch one of our shows without the other one!

I just have to say thank you, I never knew of Google sheets/ calender (I know silly) but now that I found it I will be using it! So thank you for this conversation 😊

Ive got a big ol' magnet calendar on the fridge! we are both ALWAYS in there so we look at it pretty often and update it each month together!

when it comes to finances hes WAY better at saving than I am. so I pay the bills (he moved into the house I purchased right when we started dating) and he gives me a set amount of money each month towards it - the rest he saves in a joint account, whatever he can/and also provides me with whatever I need (food shopping money, dinners out, if i need extra cash, etc.)

it also helps keep me in line because hell be like, uhm do you really need that? (not in a rude way, but in a "you know you dont lol")

View Quoted Comment The part about the finances. I love this. So much! 😂💕

We're not married yet, but we own a home together and pay all of our common bills together. We don't use a calendar app because FW is more of a pen and paper kind of person, but I have used Google calendar before it and it works great. We have a chalk board calendar in our kitchen and we use chalk markers to fill it out together each month. We don't put FW's schedule on there because she works the same thing every week, but events, appointments, my schedule, etc. are all color coordinated so that we stay on the same page. I also keep a planner and have it with me pretty much all the time because FW forgets everything lol.

As far as finances, we both came into the relationship with individual checking accounts at the same bank. We set up a joint checking account with that bank to pay our household bills out of. It works great because the Chase app makes it super easy to transfer money back and forth. We recently set up a joint savings account for things like vacations and wedding expenses.

We don't really have any specific "boundaries" set up when it comes to spending time together, which is actually kind of unfortunate. I work nights at a hospital and FW works 7am to 5pm in construction. On the nights I work, I see her from about 5:30 when she gets home to 6:30 when I leave. I work through the night until 7:30 am so she is already at work when I get home. It's rough, but we make it work. I'm also not the kind of person who needs (or wants) to spend every single second with my significant other, but hardly seeing her 3 days a week is hard. We really just try to spend as much time together as possible on my nights/weekends off.

We don't share calendars.

We each have a checking/savings account. We opened a joint checking account after we married, we treat it like a savings.

We split the mortgage 60/40 (he makes a bit more than me) and we split bills about the same. As long as the bills are paid, I don't care what he does with his money.

I was married before and my ex drove us into bankruptcy so I am a little iffy about sharing, lol.

We have never fought about money, ever. (Or sex so yay for us!)